I've been looking into doing IC and am becoming more frustrated as I dig deeper. Seems there are many different "types", that appear to be more or less useful, depending on what the needs are.

I don't believe I have any deep, dangerous problems to work on. I mainly want help changing how I react/percieve stuff I learned from FOO.

Any suggestions?

Thanks....

I like cognitive therapy. There is a book called "Feeling ood", if you want to preview the techniques. Basically it teaches you to change the way you feel by changing the way you think. It can be done fairly quickly too.

Thanks for the quick feedback.

I don't believe just changing the way I think/feel will be sufficient. I will need to be able to understand and explain many "why's" as well.

I am going to look into the book. It looks like it's been around long enough that I could pick up a copy at a nearby used bookstore. If not, new is good too.

Might be good to just try a few different ICs...go for a visit or two and see how it works out. Sometimes I think there is a lot more to it than just what counseling philosophy they subscribe too...all about how comfortable you are with the person and how they communicate. Plus getting different points of view may be helpful.

Where are you located?

Try to get the book. I was so amazed, because I had many errors in the way I think - practically all of them. I never even considered that there was another way to process things. Now I catch myself quickly. And it was not hard at all, and kind of interesting.

Thanks SRTogacihC.

I can see where different methods may achieve similar results. If they start hooking me up with electrodes, I'm not gonna stay long enough to answer questions though. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Believer,

So far this book looks to be something I definetely want to work through.

I actually picked up a more recent edition called "The Feeling Good Handbook". In the introduction, he mentions adding specific content as it relates to relationships, amoung other stuff. There are also a bunch of worksheets to fill out throughout.

Just the first part, where he talks about thoughts that contribute to feelings and forms of "twisted thinkging", has been very informative. I see so many of these in my own perceptions and suspect many in my wife's.

One that is being brought up recently....

Discouragement - You feel convinced that your problems will go on forever and that things will never improve.

Contributing twisted thinking - Overgeneralization, Mental filter, Discounting the positive,....probably more....

Overgeneralization - Seeing a negative event as a never ending pattern of defeat by using words such as "always" or "never" when you think about it.

Mental filter - Picking out a single negative detail and dwell on it exclusively, so that your vision of all reality becomes darkened.

Discounting the positive - Rejecting positive experiences by insisting they "don't count".

Good on you!!! I was amazed at how crazy my thinking was, but at the time, it felt normal. You can learn to pick this stuff up right away, and for me it was very comforting.

It was not as hard to change as I thought it would be.