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I am not sure where to start but my spouse and I have decided to divorce we have both done some unforgiveable things to each other. We have a beautiful child together. She was married before and had a son. We have been trying to work on things but it seems hopeless now. I am tired of her negative, hateful comments it has really turned me off.
It seems like she is taking her childhood out on me now and I really don't know what to do?
Is it better to just walk away?
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Joined: Jul 2001
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You really haven’t provided enough information.
What did you two do that was unforgivable? How did you try to work on things? What makes you think she’s taking her childhood out on you?
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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Joined: Mar 2007
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We had infidelity, calling the police with false issues.
Went to counseling on and off but she never really wanted to stick it out. Basically, blames everything on me and doesn't take any responsibility for her actions.
Her childhood was rough has some real dad issues. She would even hid the baby and moved out and then would call a week later to try and make amends.
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I suggest you try one more time to work it out because it sounds like she'd take the baby and run. However, if I were in your shoes, I'd have a plan. If everything is as you say, (and you're not misreading the situation based on your own issues) your wife needs to be in therapy. You also need to have an agreement that she doesn't ever again just take the baby and leave. Period.
Who had the affair and when?
Why were the police called, and who called them?
What happened in her youth.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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