We're getting along but he still wants a D. We both do not want to fight anymore. The last couple of nights we've been spending some time together. The first night we just talked and talked. Then I found out my dad who has cancer may be dying soon and he's been as supportive as he can be. We've gotten in a couple of arguments, over a couple of phone calls that I've made into a big deal. But we've talked about it. I still don't think he is cheating on me and I am definately not cheating on him. The last couple of nights he has let me sleep with him in his room. I would go back to my own room later on to be with the baby but for the most part I stay with him. He asked me what our status was and I said as far as I know it's still the same.

So any advice for me now? Is he still in withdrawal? Since the state of conflict seems like we are supposed to be fighting and since for the most part we are not, what are we then? I love him so much and will do anything to reconcile with him.

I have to leave to go to California to visit my dad. He is staying here with my oldest 2 while I go with my baby. I"m wondering if that's a good idea.

Well any advice would be apprecatiated. Thanks!

No advice?

What I really want to know is...what state is this? Conflict? Withdrawal?

If he is not cheating or in contact with OW you might be a candidate for the 180 (search threads herein to find the list).

Not cheating but definately still wants out. So can't be 180.

Okay, you have 3 small children, and your hubby spends his time "talking" to other women, going to drinking parties in cars with other women (not his type, though). Now he gets angry because you are checking up on him, and wants a divorce.

I suggest YOU get counseling to figure out why you are willing to put up with so LITTLE from him. He sounds extremely immature.

Yep, going to counseling for myself already. Thanks for the advice.