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I'm so sorry walked a million miles in your shoes this orginization helped a lot: BILY GROUP <~~~ LINK our son was on a straight line for prison ... but after he turned 18 ~~~> WE had the option to kick his lying drunk butt to the curb today, he's almost 21, he is studying to become a paramedic , he's working as an EMT .... miracles do happen Pep
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click on "reference library"
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Hey Nik?
((((((((((((((NIKKO)))))))))))))))
You do know that I loves me some Nikko, right?
If you need me niosgirlatyahoodotcom.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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thanks pep---gonna check it out right now. i know youve btdt with your son.
thanks for the hugs D.
im just emotionally worn out. i feel like everyone in my life except ys is trying to throw me off a cliff. just sucks rocks, ya know?!
gonna go read....
what we do in life......echoes in eternity!
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i may want to talk later...right now i just need to digest it all. i have to figure out what the consequences are gonna be....number one is you can forget about a driving permit. not gonna happen until you show me six months of clean tests on your dime....i will no longer be paying for them.....
gotta just figure it all out.....but for right now he is losing the door on his room. losing the computer priveledges, no going out, no more lunch money, i want his dad to take away his cell phone but i know that isnt gonna happen....
i am open to any and all ideas....my brain is mush.
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Do you think the phone could accidentally fall in a sink of dishwater?
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Nikko, Hugz 2 u and yes....even to your son. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I am sure he doesn't want an auntie type hug even from a hawaiian auntie <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> He will learn and the road to getting there requires you be around to guide him. He will try to stray because taking you to your limit is his goal. Try shortening your limit. No use you give your all and let them take it all. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Hugz, L.
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he and i talked last night....man i havent heard that much babble in a looooong time!(and considering i hang out here most days.....)lol
he has consequences...period. he doesnt like them...oh well...stop the foolishness and it wont happen. told me he only has 5 months till he's 18...then he is outta here anyway....lol....he works at mcdonalds maybe one day a week....cant wait to see where he thinks he's going...lol
talked about college....asked him how he plans on paying for that?(his dad already told me he isnt gonna contribute a thing and wanted to know if he really had to continue child support if he goes to school? no dear ex, the judge was just joking! duh!)
i told him if he wanted to prove anything, like being clean, he can now buy the tests and take them....otherwise i will assume he is still using. no drivers permit, until he's 18 or proves hes clean.
he is also grounded and lost the computer use....
he was on track.....what the he// was he thinking?
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Nikko, I'm so sorry you're having to go thru this again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
You're doing the right thing...not enabling him. I pray he gets his act together soon.
Hang in there, hon. (((Nikko)))
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Oh nikko... I'm so sorry.
Kids... nobody yanks the heart strings more...
Many hugs!!!
PS: I respect what you're doing very much. Taking a hard line is tough road... but SO worth it, I know!
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((Nikko))
I work with kids like your son. All I can say is you are doing the right thing. A wonderful southern teacher at a conference I went to would say to her students "You can make your own choices honey, but you can't choose your consequences." How true. And so often they think the consequences of their choices are "unfair".
Some of them get it right away. Some of them have to experience those consequences. In my experience working with these kids-both at high school and community college level-most of them come around eventually.
My mom-who prays for the whole world when she wakes up and can't get back to sleep-once told me that St. Augustine's mom prayed for him for 36 years (he was quite the "frat boy" back in his day-complete with illigitimate kids). Look what happened to him!
That keeps her praying for the likes of my oldest sister (52 and still looking for something to fill that God shaped hole in her life), a younger cousin who has yet to find his way, and yes my WH-plus the whole world.
Hang in there mom. You are doing the right thing.
johnstwin-
"I may not know what the future holds, but I know who holds my future." -Martin Luther
Remarried my FXH 25 years to the day of our first M. God is so good-and sometimes so unexpected!
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thanks all....i know i am. unfortunately im aquainted with this road. keep praying for us....
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