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If your WS told you something while confessing, that could cause much damage by exposing to OW boss, is it right to do it? Or would that just make WS not open up to you again? Once they confess and end the affair, is exposure a mute point?
BTW, ML, I do regret not listening to you last summer when you said to expose...I (mistakenly) thought it would just refuel the affair (which was still in progress unbeknownst to me).
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No apology needed, BIO, I understand it is a hard step to take.
To your question, it would depend on the nature of the information and the status of the affair. If the affair was over, [and I mean that ALL contact has ended] I would not expose to anyone except the OP's spouse, if any. Unless I had some information that the OP was doing something illegal/immoral that harmed others, I would not expose to her boss
Has all contact ended? Or do they work together? What is it that you know about her?
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Well, my WH confessed (w/o prodding) that he and OW had sex once on her boss's desk on a Saturday that he was working for someone else. Is this it? If I were the boss, I would want to know this. This is pretty brazen behavior. ugh... You could go either way on this, BIO, but I might tell the boss.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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[color:"blue"]Well, my WH confessed (w/o prodding) that he and OW had sex once on her boss's desk on a Saturday that he was working for someone else. [/color] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> I don't know if I'd want to know this about "my" desk .... lysol?
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ML and Pep,
Thank you for your responses. I wanted to tell you both how much I appreciate the time you take to the lost posters on this site (like me). I'm amazed at your solid convictions and steadfastness.
If I bring this out, they could both lose their clearances (very high) and potential employment. H would probably lose the job he's starting (to replace the one he did quit... to remove himself from temptation). We're trying to sell our house here in Florida and will move to TN whenever it does. I thougt about exposing after we move as H only needs job for current mortgage.
H still sees her as sweet innocent victim, doesn't connect the behavior with her true character.
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from Bring it ON:
H still sees her as sweet innocent victim , doesn't connect the behavior with her true character. So by this statement, Then does Your H see "himself" as the Predator and the perpetrator (or at the very least the Instigator) ?? As if he sees a vicitm, then there must be a ...... Just wondering. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" /> By the way, if OW is married, did/did you Not expose to her H? (sorry don't know your history) Hey, I see you got another thread close by. Let me go read it, perhaps I'll get my answer there. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Her Soon to be x was a womanizer and cheater and liar, just like she wants my H to be with me. I can't find him as he moved out of her house.
My H says he's guilty of the affair and that it was his fault and is trying to take responsibility for it, but doesn't yet know how.
I guess I should have added this on to the other thread, huh?
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