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WH has not signed papers yet...What is he waiting on?
"If you want a good wife, then you have to be a good husband."
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WH-34
0 kids
Together 3 1/2 years
Married almost one year before DDay
WH EA 9/06
DDay 11/06
Plan A 1/07
WH asked for LSA 2/07
Plan B 03/07
LSA effective 3/07
H moved out 3/07
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How long has it been completed, agreed upon, and ready to sign? Are there any changes that you think WH would like to attempt to make? Have you asked this question of you lawyer? I would, for a better guage on where things are...
I began setting up my LSA in July of '06, my WH received the finalized copy in December '06, and STILL hadn't signed it up until February when he returned home for his bried respit.
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Married 1997; son, 8yo
Divorced April 2009
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ME THINKS THAT HE WAS PLANNING ON EATING SOME CAKE AND IT WASN'T SERVED.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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OK, well maybe I spoke too soon-He just got the final copy of it and probably will be signing in the next day or two-
This sucks.
WH is talking about coming home at the end of March to get his things, put them in storage, and do taxes. He asked if I was going to be here. I told him probably not. I am not sure I want to see him but I also don't want him to take anything that is not his. Not sure what to do on this-If I am in Plan B, then I should not see him, right?
"If you want a good wife, then you have to be a good husband."
BS-38 (me)
WH-34
0 kids
Together 3 1/2 years
Married almost one year before DDay
WH EA 9/06
DDay 11/06
Plan A 1/07
WH asked for LSA 2/07
Plan B 03/07
LSA effective 3/07
H moved out 3/07
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"If you want a good wife, then you have to be a good husband."
BS-38 (me)
WH-34
0 kids
Together 3 1/2 years
Married almost one year before DDay
WH EA 9/06
DDay 11/06
Plan A 1/07
WH asked for LSA 2/07
Plan B 03/07
LSA effective 3/07
H moved out 3/07
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I am not sure I want to see him but I also don't want him to take anything that is not his. Not sure what to do on this-If I am in Plan B, then I should not see him, right? hoping, is it possible to pack up his stuff for him, and say have it delivered by uhaul??????? thats a nice message:) ps, you need to join the plan B party,...its very lively..
Fightingback
BS (me) 36
WS 39
3 kids 3,4,8
together 15yrs
EA 9/06, PA 10/06
12/07 plan A
1/13/07 WS moves out
1/27/07 1st attempt plan B
2/20/07 REAL plan B
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Hoping: If you are in Plan B, you DO NOT see him. No contact means no contact. Not visual, not email, not phone, not VM, not TM. How are you communicating this info about taxes, whether or not you'll be there in March, etc.?? (p.s., I've been in Plan B all of six days FWIW) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> and please join the party
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Hey Lilsis-I am to the point where I don't want to see him or talk to him-These past few days w/o any contact has made me see all of the terrible things he has done to me and what he has put me thru-He has totally scre**ed me over these past 3 years-I guess I am communicate about the taxes thru my attorney (my SIL)...I have changed my email and I have caller ID on my phone but he has not tried to call. He is not going to change the way he is (fear of intimacy, commitment, closeness, etc). He even told me a couple of weeks ago that this M is not a priority of his right now. I am starting to "see the light" and its just not good.
"If you want a good wife, then you have to be a good husband."
BS-38 (me)
WH-34
0 kids
Together 3 1/2 years
Married almost one year before DDay
WH EA 9/06
DDay 11/06
Plan A 1/07
WH asked for LSA 2/07
Plan B 03/07
LSA effective 3/07
H moved out 3/07
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If there is anyone who can be in the house or drop in and out WHILE he is moving things, that would keep you from having to be there. You could set up a list of things that you would like to keep, and have intermediary send this to WH, upon which time you WH can mull it over. If he has any questions or problems, they go thru intermediary. I would try to take care of this BEFORE he comes to move his things.
I have the same thing happening next week, but I've gotta tell you, I really don't care much about what WH takes. I need the gaming stuff for our son, and I'm keeping the bed. I've already enumerated what of the living room furniture he can take, so we're basically set. HE will have to buy what he needs for his new place, as the house here is stocked for our family, and we don't want to change the way we live...
Me-BS-38
Married 1997; son, 8yo
Divorced April 2009
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Let me see if I am reading this correctly - he wants to come to your home, pack his things, and also do the taxes on the computer that is in your home (because all the paperwork is there, past years of tax returns were done on this computer, etc)?
You would be leaving the home on purpose so that he could do that and you would not need to be in contact with him?
Sounds like a pretty awkward situation...how long is it going to take him to do all that?
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Hey guys-my attorney, who happens to be my SIL, is going to be our mediator. He has signed the papers and sent them back to her-he is going to come home, sometime, and get his stuff and the other car and put it in storage and then do our taxes thru H and R block. So I am not going to be in contact w/ him. My heart is broken. I cannot believe it has come to this.
"If you want a good wife, then you have to be a good husband."
BS-38 (me)
WH-34
0 kids
Together 3 1/2 years
Married almost one year before DDay
WH EA 9/06
DDay 11/06
Plan A 1/07
WH asked for LSA 2/07
Plan B 03/07
LSA effective 3/07
H moved out 3/07
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