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read exactly what Orchid wrote:
Listen to the whole thing before you shut off this post.
U need to let go. You are holding onto the tail of a wild WS and A. Not the OW but the WS and A. You can't hold onto a WS.
What you worry about is your H. This is a prime time to put pressure on the WS and the OW. How?
By demanding they meet each other's needs. Of course they can't, all the more reason to demand it.
Read this over again!!!! This "can possibly" be the key to success in your situation.
No matter how hard it is for you...........back off.
Let them deal with the stress of a new puppy! Let them deal with your husbands health issues. This will be the only way for your WS to see that the "other side isn't greener"!
Oh, btw...........I breed dogs, so I know how much work "potty training" is and I know how frustrating a pup can get if you're unexperienced.
I've experienced something interesting throughout my years of breeding........(I'll try to find the right words)
Many times I've noticed that a puppy sorta "symbolizes" a child........I've had childless or patchwork family-couples come to me wanting a puppy and after awhile they splitt up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />
It's as if it's a hidden wish for a child or a romantic gesture representing a child. (do you understand what I mean??)
The pup (at the beginning) resembles "romance" but within time......it just gets frustrating. Mostly after a few puddles and piles.........
Don't you dare send them any books about "Potty-training".........
Back off and let "reality " set into their lives.........and have patience. Keep yourself as busy as possible!!! and remember, the more you back off now.....the more your WS will be "thinking", it'll confuse him!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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