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'Don't worry', you are forgiven too for that part... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

just as we are forgiven, so must we forgive...

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Post deleted by Lori991

Thank you, Alluring.

Hey Lori,

I think it should be pointed out that this is a Marriage Builder site--and by that I'm not saying good, bad or otherwise--just that the whole point of the site is more like, "How to rebuild your marriage after an affair" or "How to stay in love and keep your spouse from cheating"...and not so much "How to deal with crazy ex-spouses in your life." Thus, from that point of view, I think most folks posting here have either had an affair or their spouse had an affair...and people are pretty definite regarding when a marriage ends, etc.

My point in bringing this up is that although there may be some folks here who's ex's have wandered off into the fogland and never returned (and who thereby act sort of nutz), there may not be too many here who are here to talk about "What to do if your Significant Other's ex is nutz". Furthermore, there probably aren't too many here in that position--so there wouldn't be a lot of "experienced wisdom." Now, we are wise as heck on "What to do when you first find out your spouse is cheating" or "What to do when you find out they never ended contact"...but frankly, on this site, once people get past the divorce and maybe start to date a bit...they fall off the site and go to other sites.

Now, I've been in your position--sort of. My exH is diagnosable "nuts" but thankfully is so self-centered that he pretty much leaves us alone, and my new H's exW is diagnosable Narcissistic! She is not aware that anyone exists outside of her presence! heehee. But have you done any reading on Parental Alienation Syndrome? It sounds a little bit like what your SO's ex is doing. That's when an ex alienates the kids against one parent and makes their life such a living ****** that eventually the alienated parent just gives up. Might wanna read up on that! Also, you might want to try another site that I used to visit: Second Wives Cafe (you can just google it). First, on that site you have to give them your story a little bit before they let you on, so they protect the members. Second, it's more experienced with the questions you're asking--more educational. I will let ya know that I personally do not go there anymore because I wanted to pray for some members and they had a fit about mixing religions and blah blah blah. Anyway...I decided I'd rather go to a place where I can be my religion!

Soooo...good luck finding out about PAS and finding Second Wives Cafe!!

Your faithful friend,


CJ

OK, Lori, please humor me - did your BF "absolutely did not want to be a father" twice? Or is it only the second time that he did not want to be a father? Or does he not know where babies come from?

AGG

CJ, thank YOU SO MUCH!!!

This information, along with your story, is exactly what I have been looking for.

You have answered the prayer that lead me to this site to begin with.

Good luck to you!