Its been awhile since I have posted (18 months). I moved back in after Plan B and things started to improve. The about 6 months ago we started to not communicate as much. For whatever reason we became distant.

Of course we are both busy with work and she is going to school. She had a lot of school work to do one weekend so I suggested she get a hotel room and get away from the kids etc. Approximately a week later I find two wine glasses and two burned candles hidden in her drawer. I never saw these before but I thought maybe (and stupidly) they were for us.

This last weekend she had a final term paper due so once again I suggested a hotel weekend. A day before the hotel I found that the wine glasses were gone and in their place was two shot glasses, two candles, and a bottle of whisky in her drawer. It looked to me like a nice little romance kit for her weekend. I removed the items and waited till she got home.

Here first words were "I don't have any idea what the shot glasses are". At that point I knew she was lying. I very specifically asked "why did you put these in your drawer?" Her response was I was being crazy. Finally I said "who is he?" She said there is no he. Then she said she wants a divorce.

So here we are 2 years after Plan A and 18 months after Plan B. Is it true that Doctor Harley recommends divorce for serial cheaters? I just don't know if I can go through with this again.

What do you want? At this point there s/b no need for plan A (unless you need to make those improvements...again). So plan B s/b implemented immediately.

She wants a D? Has she really thought it through? These times are best to hit the WS hard before they have a chance to make their plans.

When mine would slip and contact OW, I pulled out plan B and kicked him out.

You were meant to find those glasses. Let her know she has betrayed your trust and you are taking steps to protect you and your family but NOT the WS. Let her go without anything but the clothes on her back and let the OM or whatever NOT use your things to further their A. The OM needs to meet needs. You know they are lazy cowards.

L.