I first want to say to all of you how much it means to me that you are concerned about my situation. I mean you don't even know me, yet you care more than some of my family and friends do. I give all of you sincere ((((hugs)))) for that. Thanks. You have no idea how much it means to me.

I'm sorry I did not post last night. I was just very emotionally worn out. Well court was a waste of time. I went yesterday, we couldn't come to an agreement, so we go back again. A date hasn't been set yet. Hopefully it will be soon. What WH is offering me I might as well go and live in a cardboard box with the kids. I gave him what I thought was a fair agreement. I made some concessions, but he is making tons of stipulations, not wanting me to raise the kids in my religion, which they have been since they were born, because he knows adultery is not accepted, etc, etc. Crying poverty, yet he has OW paying stuff too.

I remember reading here that you will know when the time is righ to D. I was having regrets, doubts. Well I think I finally realized it yesterday. I don't want this man in my life. D'ing is going to devastate my kids, especially my DS. I think that is why I regretted filing in the first place. If I didn't have kids, I can 100% say I would have walked away already. But I can't go on like this anymore. I want it to end. I wish I never had to see him again.

I am starting to have panic attacks again. Something I haven't had in months. He's not worth it.

I'll try and keep you posted. I would appreciate it though if you kept me in your prayers. Thanks again for caring.

Cat

You know we will Cat. Wish there was something magical I could say to take the hurt away.

(((Hugs))) to you and the kids.

Thanks so much. It's good to know you guys are here for me.

Cat

That is what is so frustrating about all of this stuff. First they cheat, and then they aren't man enough to have any regard for the wellbeing of their family.

Sorry you are going through this. Hang in there, and don't accept less than your family deserves.

I agree. I think it's terrible that now me and the kids have to suffer because of his doings.

He's going to come out with $$ in the end. He has OW's income also. I'm lucky if I'll be able to make ends meet.

now remember down the road when he marries OW, go back and get your child support changed and include her income as part of his, your CS will go up

Let's hope he never marries the wh$re. She's young enough to be my kid's sibling!

But...if it does happen, can I include her income for more alimony too? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Cat,

I'm so sorry... I was thinking of you yesterday. It's to bad things are being dragged out. I know what that feels like. We also got nothing settled at our recent mediation.

We have a court date for intermon (sp) support the first week of April. Right now our finances are still together and we are trying to pay off debt. It's working alot better than it was the past couple of months.

The deal he wanted to give me was also riduculous. I was to get most of the CC but he would pay CS.

I'm sorry again remember we are here if you need to vent.

Still

The fact that you were able to come up with your own humor in the sitch above shows grace under HUGE amounts of pressure. I only hope I have half as much dignity as you do when the time arises for me to deal with all of this in a D. It's a real bummer to have to continue to go to court for this D. You continue to fight, no settling for crumbs for you and your children.

Thanks for posting and letting us all know that you are okay.

Catgirl,
Hsven't been around for awhile and was sorry to see that things have progressed so far for you. I was happy to see that it seems you have come to terms with it and you now say you want it over.

Wishing you peace and God's richest blessings for you and your children.

Oh I plan on fighting, the thing is the laws seem to favor the WH.

As I said he is crying poverty, saying he has so much to pay for...rent, utilities etc. OW is helping him pay, but her income cannot be counted for alimony and child support which I think sucks. He is paying stuff here now due to the temp. orders, why can't he just continue? Doesn't seem to be crippling him financially now.

So I have to go on what he makes, and ask for child support and alimony on that. Even though he is using her income to pay stuff and he really has a lot more disposable income that he is stating. It's just not fair. My attorney knows all this but said the courts will only order him to pay on what he states his income is. The courts will not count OW's income at all.

I asked in my agreement to let me relocate with the kids in th efuture if necessary. I might not be able to afford living in this state and need to move elsewhere. He refuses to agree on that. He doesnt; see the kids much now anyway, why should he care where I live?

I feel that even after the D he will still control me. I have to allow him to take the kids certain times, agree to this, agree to that regarding the kids. It's like I will have no say in my own life! As I said he won't even let me move! (that I will fight)