My XH, (finally, as of 1/7) is trying to buy back the life he threw away. First, he's trying to put an offer down on a house in our...MY...small town. Now, he has purchased a new puppy of the same breed as our original dogs.

I think the man is sick and needs serious psychiatric help.

He thinks he just wants to be close to us and wants that kind of dog. Of course, it doesn't matter what anybody else wants. It only matter what HE wants.

He drives me mad! Little does he know that the house he thinks he wants is just around the corner from my lawyer...

Struggling for perspective.

Hi GG,

If I were you I wouldn't be thinking about what the ex is doing.We all know they've lost it.In my case,my ex still thinks it would be fun for me to tag along when he has the kids,portraying a life we once had: family.

I just can't do it even though it would please my kids.I really think I would throw up.I just can't stand to be around him anymore,at least not for long periods of time.Knowing he's shacked up with the OW and all that,why on earth would I want to be in his company? So I don't think much about it,afterall,I have more important things to attend to.I am living my own life now.

However,I can sympathize.At least my ex isn't living near me.He's 3+ hours away.When he would come into town with the OW to be with the kids,I would feel a bit violated.Like they were invading my space.My town.Now,I don't care as much.I can't do anything about it so,you know,this whole process is about letting go,acceptance.It's hard.

How are you feeling now being D'd?

LOL. My dad's second wife bought the exact same kitchen dishes as my mom had. She started wearing the same brand that my mom used to wear and shopped at a dress shop my mom used to go to.

Hi GG

Hoping you are well

Pep

Threadjacking to say "Hi, Pepperband."

Yes, I'm doing well. How about you?