UPDATE
We where out of town this week with the kids, didn't ride together as I wasn't coming back til the next day. He made comments several times about this.

There is another single dad within the group that we were with and he made a couple of hits on me and creeped me out a little as he was kind of crude, we were sitting around the pool playing cards and visiting and my guy friend and I went after a drink and I asked that he stay close by as Tom had hit on me and he owed me as I had saved him one time from unwanted attention and said not a problem.

Him and the van full he was with was leaving Sunday and I walked out with them and he came back in twice to remind me about something and then to ask about something else, like he wanted to say more and couldn't or didn't know what to say!

I am wondering wants with that or am I reading more into it then what is there. I brought up the ride again and he said your afraid and I said we could start out with around the block and he said once I was on I was at his mercy!

Give me something to test the waters with!!! I find myself thinking of him more then I should, and need a move or to move on!!!!

Thanks all!!


Ok, it's been a while since I've been here!!

I've been real busy with life stuff. Still not dating, am not sure why, just aren't that many guys in my world. I do have one guy friend that I do do stuff with, but it's always related to our kids and their bowling or the bowling program that we run together. People have made the comment that we act like spouses sometimes!!!

We've done a lot of sharing and visiting about our individual situations, I knew his wife and she had asked me one time how I had faired in my divorce, didn't realize then where she was coming from. She had had an affair while he was deployed.

He has dated some one locally and broke it off when she got too serious his kid is 18 hers was 5 so that was a part of it, he has also connected online and meet in person, just not the same as online.

We spent a lot of time together last weekend at the bowling alleys with the kids as it is tournament time, will do so again this weekend. We go out of town in 2 weeks and then again in May with the kids. Our kids are great friends, my one daughter has said you really should date him, mom!!!

We talk via email at least once or twice a week usually about bowling, sometimes other stuff.

Somedays I get that warm fuzzy feeling when I am around him , it's not always there though. There are many things that I like about the guy. I've invited him different times to do something sometimes he will sometimes not. He has owed me a motorcycle ride for over a year and I made comment today in an email about it and nothing more was said.

I really like him as a friend and treasure the friendship, but I feel like we have been dancing for a year and not made it around the dance floor.


HELP HERE PLEASE!!!!
How do I test the water with out being very blunt, which I am not and would never do, I need something subtle to see if there is something more, HELP!!!!

I made the comment as a set of parents walked out of the bowling alley hand in hand, "that's what I am envious of, they are enjoying this time of their lives, their son is a junior and their daughter graduated a year ago." He just smiled and said "yep that's what we had signed up for when we got married."

I want that!!! But I am not finding the guy out there and am wondering if he is sitting right under my nose!!!!

Thanks, Dawn <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I think the motorcyle ride is a great idea. I haven't been on this forum in about 2 years but everyone here has great ideas and thoughts and knows what you've been through and what you're going through. My thoughts are that everything you describe is a relationship of convenience but it doesn't make it not a relationship. You always are doing something with the kids, maybe invite him for something just the two of you... use the bowling as a starter but make sure you talk about other things, some guys need a little kick start. The only way to know for sure is to try.

Hoping that someone will have something creative and fun for me to try!!!

Dawn

i would ask again about the motorcycle ride. (by the way, it is fun, a bit scary, but fun) next time you are together just say you are ready! have him name the day and time and say you will be there. that ride most likely would lead to a stop off somewhere for coffee or something and voila! you are alone and having adult conversation.

the rest is up to you!
mlhb

p.s. we are not young kids anymore... sometimes there is just not time to beat around the bush. life is too short, so go for it! none of us are getting any younger right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I'm having trouble following the story here. Too many masculine pronouns for me to figure out who you are talking about. I think it's my grammar thing causing this.....I have trouble following too many pronouns.

Maybe suggest a cup of coffee, or whatever, w/ the liked guy, not the creep guy, after you leave bowling next week?