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Should we focus on marriage, focus on our adoption of 15yr old, should be hold off on adoption and hope someone else will adopt her? I think we need all our focus to go to what we have today and to fix it before bringing in another added stressor. WH knows he srewed up and does not think the 15yr old in russia should pay for his indiscretions? I don't think I should pay for it either! I don't think our 4yr old should pay for it too! I don't want to be a single mom of one let alone 2. I want to focus on the present.
Any opinions? If I were pregnant I know I would not abort. I am so confused this is all new to me. 2wks now since dd of A.
BW (Me) age 41
WH age 40
kids 9 & 3
DD PA Skank #1 2/07
DD PA Skank #2 9/29/10
DD EA Skank #3 3/11 (occurred in '08)not sure if it was PA
Plan A- presently 9/2/11
Plan D- filed 12/20/11, served 12/24/11, 9/2/11 on hold, 12/1/11 cancelled
1/5/2011 WH tells me he is not 100% sure his relationship with OW would work.
7/21/2011 WH moves back home
11/7/2011 WH still foggy in ref to SK#3
Plan D- 1/2012 refiled
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I would certainly not drag an innocent 15 yr old into such a mess. Nor can you afford the added pressure of a new person in your home. You are just BEGINNING the recovery process and that is not fair to the 15 yr old or to your marriage. You will need all your resources right now to deal with your current situation. I think it would be in ALL your best interest to pass.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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