i am currently 38 weeks pregnant and i just found out a week ago that the father of my child (we aren't married but we have been together for 3 years and have lived together almost since day 1 so i consider us to have been married, just not legally) cheated on me when i was 3 months pregnant with one of my best friends. i kicked him out and told him i couldn't forgive him. now i'm not quite sure if that was such a good idea. he said it was a one time thing and i believe him, but the fact that i was pregnant and it was with my friend is just something i don't know if i can get over. i don't know how often this happens and i don't know how often it is forgivable. i'm 20 years old and this will be my first child. i'm so close to my duedate that my hormones are insane and i just don't know if my feelings on this are being overrun by hormones. i don't know what to do or how to think or feel.

what should i do? single choice
	try to work it out
	realize that it won't work out
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move back in with your parents

wait a full year to see if your boyfriend remains faithful

do not commit at this time
but stay open to the possibility

BUT don't live with him

distance will make your thinking much clearer

Pep

This is a tough one. Keep your distance and work on being a good mother. you need a support group. Are your parents available?

i am currently staying with my mother, but she doesn't have much room. i'm trying to keep my current residence but i don't know how well it will work out financially seeing as the father was the main source of income. i was going to offer him the option of a roommate situation where he has one room and i have another, but i think we would fight a lot. i just really want my son to have his father in his life and that's why i'm so torn.
i don't know of any support groups for things like this anywhere around where i live but i'm definitely going to check into it.

Read all the concepts on the main MB website...see some links on the right side of the screen. If he is wanting to be with you and the baby I would have him read the concepts to and see just how serious he is about making a commitment to you and to being the father your baby needs him to be.

I think it is worth trying to work it out with him...but I think you made a big mistake putting the cart before the horse and playing at being married without the vows and formality. JMHO.

You are not the first one to be betrayed while pregnant....married or not.

I've been where you are and it can be pretty scary.

Having the advantage of hindsight, I wouldn't have jumped back in.

You and your baby should be your biggest priority. That is the relationship you need to nurture right now.

Don't try a "room mate" thing. That just doesn't work. Give him the opportunity to prove to himself and to you that he's made of better stuff before you get involved again.

That said, he can still be part of his childs life.

Good luck to you.

FIM