I had previously posted about finding some pretty convincing evidence that my wife was having another affair. We have been through this before and I had successfully (or so I thought) completed Plan A for around 8 months and then Plan B for just a month. Finally she seem to have come around and over the last 18 months our relationship has been a little distant but we had been hanging in there with slow improvement.

Some of the responders thought my evidence was pretty circumstantial but we all know about those gut feelings. Anyway I did some more digging and found the evidence I needed in some emails. Its a new guy she met late last year. I am completely devastated. In email to a girlfriend she says she loves him but likes our lifestyle and friendship. The whole thing is crazy as he is 11 years younger than her, not kids.

My first reaction was to kick her out and lock the doors but with two teenagers in the house this would just get ugly. So now my plan is to expose. The question is when. We have a big party planned for Saturday night. It's basically too late to cancel this. Should I try and keep a level head for a few days and expose next week? This is so weird the second time around. The first time I was more hurt but I had hope. This time I am hurt plus angry but less hopeful.

Any advice on exposure timing?