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I can't even look at her,, love bank is empty...
BS: 44 WW: 44
Together: 7 yrs
DDay1: 9/1/06
DDay2: 3/15/07
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I'd bet that happens more than you think. Once I found out about my WW's A, I no longer seen her as my wife, but rather the other guys toy.
"Integrity is not a conditional word. It doesn't blow in the wind or change with the weather. It is your inner image of yourself, and if you look in there and see a man who won't cheat, then you know he never will." - John Macdonald
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BIC,
Why don't you tell us about her? What is she like, smell like, hair color? Why did you fall in love with her to start with?
M2L
ME BH 36 - FWW 33
2 kids
DDAY May 06
Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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Can you detach from her for a while? What is your story? How can we help you?
Me-BS-38
Married 1997; son, 8yo
Divorced April 2009
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[b][color:"green"]If your love bank is empty
detatch from her 100%
NO discussions
NO thinking/wondering
NO plan A B or D
SIMPLY go into self-restoration & healing ... 100% focus on yourself
prior to any activity/decision ask yourself : "Will this choice ultimately be good FOR ME"
do NOT date or soothe with other romantic choices
completely ignore your WW
.... see what happends
Pep
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[b] [color:"green"]and
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you cannot completely detatch from her .... you are not really "finished" ... you are taking a break ....
either way
pay attention to your energy level
do you feel that you may be severely depressed?
have you seen your doctor? [/color]
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[b][color:"green"] I sniff out some serious depression here ....
and I worry ....
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