Hi everyone......

I really need to find out if anyone else's cycle has been messed up since D-day.

Before D-day, for my entire life since starting my cycle, my periods have always been on time and have always lasted 5 days, except for the times I messed up on my birth controls pills. I haven't taken birth control pills in years though.

Right after d-day, I had a period for a solid month. It wasn't just a continuous period either. It would start in the morning, slow down and stop at night, then start all over again the next day with all the pain that comes along with it.

The first few months after that, I had periods about every other week or maybe two weeks apart. For the last two months, they've sorta been on time but have lasted for a week. Today is my 8th day on my latest cycle. The last two days of this cycle (and with the periods I had the last two months) have been numerous (like 15) periods that start and stop every few hours and alot of spotting in between.

I have also had many "phantom" periods where I feel the pain of it starting on and off all the time, but then nothing happens.

I have had three night sweats. I wasn't just perspiring, the sheet underneath me was literally wet. One night last week, I also experienced several hot flashes.

Now, I know all of this sounds like menopause. But I'm thinking I may be too young. I am 42. My mother had a hysterectomy so I have no info there. My oldest sister is 6 years older than me and she hasn't had any menopausal syptoms yet.

On top of all of it, last week I discovered a small lump in my breast. I'm totally freaking out and feel as if I am falling apart. All of this and the emotions caused by the affair. I feel like jumping off the deep end.

I do have a gyn appt next week.

Does anyone relate?

((( mopey )))

Glad you are going to your doctor soon. Try, try, try not to worry too much about all of it.

I will say some prayers that everything will be fine.

Re: periods and such after D Day - um... not sure if my hormones wanted to kill me or me kill someone....

I relate!

Mopey, it does indeed sound like you have entered the happy world of peri-menopause. And you're not too young. It can start surprisingly early.

I had a hysterectomy at around 30, so didn't realise that some strange health issues I had a few years back could have been the start of the menopause. However, after my EA d-day I went into peri with a vengeance!! I am now taking lots of herbal remedies, but my doc has put me on a low-dose HRT (bio-identical). My sister's husband left her for another woman - although this is 25 years ago now - but her periods stopped dead and she had hot flushes. Our mother didn't suffer too much with the meno, so that is a good sign that mine will not be too bad. My 'caribbean moments' are not as bad as soaking the bed - just a strange warm glow, but cold feet.

If you need some support on this there is a message board that I visit regularly. They list 34 symptoms of peri - I've had about 30 of them! They are a helpful bunch of ladies, just like the good people here.
http://www.power-surge.com/php/forums/
I have the same username there. You will find me mostly in the depression section!!

And if you are having mood swings, this is a peri symptom. Sometimes I don't know what's causing my low moods, the A or the peri! Oh, and sleepless nights aren't much fun either.

Hey ho!! What fun.

Mopey, you're not too young...I am 44 and I think i have finally reached meno....been almost 12 months w/o a period.
Peri-meno started before d-day, which was more than 3 years ago. I think the stress can amplify your symptoms, and maybe even hasten the progress, though.

Where perimenopause is concerned, the only thing predictable about periods is their unpredictability!

Definitely check it out with your Dr....but keep in mind, if they check your FSH level and it says you are NOT in menopause, that doesn't mean you haven't started the process (especially if they don't find anything else physically wrong with you). My FSH levels weren't elevated until last year!

Hot flashes and night sweats are a telltale sign, but could also indicate a thyroid problem.
Don't worry....(I know, easy to say!)....everything will be ok!

NOW

Carnation.....

Thanks for the hug. I need it today.

I try not to worry too much but when you're in pain constantly the reminder is always there. Now the lump in the breast......I am constantly praying about this and REALLY APPRECIATE yours.

God bless you......

Hi,
when my husbands affair was discovered, I was 39yo.

And YES!!!! did d-d ever affect my hormones. I felt like I eas going through menopause. I went to the gyn. and she couldn't discover anything.

I woke up at nite times socken wet, my period went crazy, I had heat flashes.............

This was probably all due to the stress and psycological.........cause now I'm 46yo. and still haven't reached meno.

bb

It could a combo of age and stress related. It's wise you are seeing your doc. Hopefully everthing will check out fine.

Have you ever had a mammogram? If so, you know you usually have 4 pictures and you're done. I want to give you a FYI since you are feeling a lump, it is possible you will have additional views beyond the inital 4. Don't panic if you have to have extra pictures. Extra pictures are common especially when someone feels a lump. Something else that is common is sometimes an ultrasound will be ordered to go along with the mammogram. I am sharing this info with you because you already sound a little nervous and I wanted to let you know that this is possibly something you will face after you see your doc.

DH59 and NOW......

Thank you sooooo much for sharing that with me. I'm not falling apart then......yaaaaaaaay!!!!

However......I feel like I just reached my sexual prime a few years ago and this sucks big time!!! Has it affected your libido? I don't think it has mine except for all of the period crap (lack of a better word).

And......it seems to me as if the d-days can make this come earlier???!!!! AAARRRRRGGGGGGG!!!!!! My sis hasn't started yet.....why can't life be fair.....lol!!!!!!

O.k., next question.....how long does this crap last?....lol!!! I feel I am going insane. I will definitely check out the discussion forum. Thank you soooo much for linking that to me DH59.

And the depression......cannot believe I have to deal with the affair & this too. It totally sucks. I said that already didn't I.

Many sleepless nights too. Is that meno related too or just A related?

Geez........

Thanks you guys.....err....gals.

Blondblossom.....

I don't like the sound of any of that.

Have your periods been irratic for seven years?????

Could be your breast lump is hormonal. I had some strange changes in the nipple area of one breast, which soon subsided, as did most of the other symptoms. Just left with the mood swings at the moment. Flushing controlled now with the HRT and herbal stuff. My oestrogen levels were depleted according to my blood test.

Here's the 34 symptoms:
http://www.power-surge.com/educate/34symptoms.htm

Lifeschoice....

I REALLY APPRECIATE the heads up on what to expect. It helps take some of the fear away of not knowing. Thank you.

And no, I have never had a mammogram. I am 42 and should have already. My gyn who I had been seeing for the past 19 years left, and I was not excited about looking for another one. I did pick another one (in the same group) and am soooo anxious to talk to him now of course.

DH59.....



Care to elaborate please? I have pain in one of mine and the lump is right underneath the nipple. God, I hope it's only hormonal. Although, I have had strange pains in that same breast for awhile now, since before D-day. I have been such an idiot for not checking into the pain earlier.

And thanks for the other link. After dinner I plan to read both of those links.

That's just how I felt when I discovered it was peri - from all the symptoms I was having post d-day I thought I didn't have long for this world.

Perhaps we could start a meno sub group here!!


Yes, at first my libido went into a bit of overdrive, but then some ADs knocked it off again. It's back a bit now that I have stopped taking them (for that very reason, along with other side effects). Not a good time to lose your libido. Good job H understands what I'm going through (due to him!!)


I've read on the other board that some go on for quite some time. I think I've read 10 years, but I'm in denial on that one.


Not fair is it? I never know which is causing the low mood. I think it's the meno, which then plunges me into A thoughts.


Yes, and yes.

Well, the area went darker than the other side and was a little tender and more 'pimply' is the only way I can describe it. Not much to go on really, and I never got it checked. The next time I visited the doc it had gone.

My sister, who has had a lump removed due to breast cancer a few years ago, sent me a joke about mammograms the other day. I won't post it so as not to worry you!!

If it is something more sinister, at least you have probably caught it early. A good sign that we should all check ourselves regularly.

DH59.....



Me too, me too! Like, thinking I'm going to bleed to death....or jumping off a bridge because it all seems too much. Don't worry, those are serious thoughts....yet.....lol! Speaking of which, did your periods get heavier? Mine certaintly has. A lot heavier.



We just did.......kewl.



I know right?!!!! It has definitely not been a good time for all of this. My #1 EN is affection.....my H is affectionate to me even when I'm on my period but not as much as when I'm not. Not to mention I am sexually frustrated!!!!!! LOL!!!



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My heart dropped. Did you hear it?



Me too.....starting now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


Unfortunately, I can't decipher between the two either and wonder if it matters. I think about the A almost all the time still (6 months in) and the other when I'm on my period.




Oh joy.....

DH59......

Thanks for elaborating. Not the same for me. No visible differences. Just the pain inside the breast and the lump.

I hope if it is more serious, I caught it early enough. I'm kind of worried about that because I have had pain for some time. Shame on me!

So far we have hit on irregular periods, breast lumps, mammograms, mood swings and many more items that are sure to have all the men on this board avoiding this thread like the plague. LOL

Don't have them - had a hysterectomy some years ago, which made it more difficult for me to tell that I had gone into peri.

No doubt!......lol.......lol........

Maybe we can sneak some other topics in here since you know they'll never want to read here.......lol.....

DH59.....




Ooooops......you're right. Sorry for not catching that.

And, I guess I'm nieve (sp?). So.....after a hysterectomy, you still go through menopause?

I'm gonna go make dinner now.......I'll check this thread out again later.

Thanks soooo much ladies!