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I dunno about style, but on our anni this year the Wookie and my dad finally talked and the last of the things my Wookie needed to do (on my list) to help repair the damage he caused by the adultry has been accomplished.

Can you think of a better gift? I couldn't.


I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?

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Well, THAT IS wonderful! Congrads!

With everything that you have been through you deserve it! How are the kids doing?


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I have a question for you Kimmy. It's something I've been thinking a lot about lately.

Do you think that if Wookie hadn't returned to the marriage, totally recommitted the way he has...

that you would be happy regardless? Given the same time frame.

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I dunno about style, but on our anni this year the Wookie and my dad finally talked and the last of the things my Wookie needed to do (on my list) to help repair the damage he caused by the adultry has been accomplished.

Can you think of a better gift? I couldn't.

[color:"green"] FANTASTIC [/color]

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FBH(me)-51 FWW-49 (MrsWondering)
DD19 DS 22 Dday-2005-Recovered

"agree to disagree" = Used when one wants to reject the objective reality of the situation and hopefully replace it with their own.
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Just wonderful Kimmy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />


Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

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What a beautiful fence to mend. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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[color:"green"] really .... this just makes me want to blubber ..... blub blub blub

Kimmy, remember when you were all up in you Dad's face about the gap between these men?

When your HUSBAND steps up to the plate and swings .... NOW he's a REAL MAN

Until he did this difficult thing ... I still had reservations

I REALLY am all blubbery about this .... My Dad thinks of Mr Pep as one of his own .... and I want that for Wookie
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[color:"green"] really .... this just makes me want to blubber ..... blub blub blub

Kimmy, remember when you were all up in you Dad's face about the gap between these men?

When your HUSBAND steps up to the plate and swings .... NOW he's a REAL MAN

Until he did this difficult thing ... I still had reservations

I REALLY am all blubbery about this .... My Dad thinks of Mr Pep as one of his own .... and I want that for Wookie
Pep[/color]

(handing Pep a NEW tissue...not the communal and very soggy one we share on I'ville)

Suck it up princess!

(sorry. I've been DYING to say that to someone!)

Whew.

It was something, I tell ya.

The Wookie had asked for my hand in marriage, once upon a time....and to tell you the truth, it looked like it was going to be a reply of that weekend. The Wookie was waiting for my dad to say something and my dad was waiting for the Wookie to say something (rightly so). I pulled him aside and respectfully told him that if this was going to be dejavu of when he asked for my hand that between my mother and I we were going to beat the tar outta both of 'em and go to Mazatlan for 'ritas.

So he did the deed....and it wasn't as bad as he'd blown it up in his mind (is it ever as bad as they think it's gonna be...this 'fessin' and aplogizin'?...cos I've never seen it as bad as they SUPPOSE it's gonna be).

My dad says he still has some issues, but they are HIS issues to work through and it's nothing the Wookie needs to lose sleep over. I told the Wookie that is understandable...we all must cope with our own daemons through the 10,000 miles of burnt gorilla [censored].

So there you have it.

And Weav...c'mon now....the moment I channeled Pep and Mel, 180'd the Wookie and therefore CHANGED my reactions towards him (and subsequently woke him the hayel up) I KNEW I was gonna be okay.

Knew it from the tips of my toesies to the roots of my hairsies (remind me to add Ms. Clariol to the shopping list).

Up till that point, I'd have said I dunno. But it was my "ah-ha" moment....

Love you all mucho grande big....which, according to our 4 year old is "as big as a galaxy!"

- Kimmy


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And Weav...c'mon now....the moment I channeled Pep and Mel, 180'd the Wookie and therefore CHANGED my reactions towards him (and subsequently woke him the hayel up) I KNEW I was gonna be okay.

Knew it from the tips of my toesies to the roots of my hairsies (remind me to add Ms. Clariol to the shopping list).

Up till that point, I'd have said I dunno. But it was my "ah-ha" moment....


That's it, it's the moment. Like in that Aerosmith song "Amazing".

But why doesn't everyone get to that moment, the moment where they know they will be okay. That regardless, they are going to be happy.

I think when they enter into recovery too soon, before they have that moment something doesn't happen that needs to. They get stalled, they remain in a kind of an unhappy state.

I don't know, I'm just thinking. Why some people end up so happy, and some people never really seem to get to happiness. It has to do with something that doesn't happen, regardless of marital recovery or not.

And I think you just said it. It's that moment when you know you will be okay, or happy regardless.

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I think it has to do with waking up one morning and realizing You Choose Your Life.

You don't necessarily know how it will turn out, you suspect there will be terrible rough spots; but it's your life and you choose.

Then it all starts to make sense and you know you will be fine, no matter what.


Kimmy, congrats. FWW will never do this with my mother though.


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"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky

WS: They are who they are.

When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
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Yes, the moment you take responsibility for your life.

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Yes, the moment you take responsibility for your life.

It's not my fault.

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I think sometimes about all the pain in the world. I hope we can ease that here, even if only a little bit.
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You can't prove anything.

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No one saw me do it.

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Aw Shucks Kimmy,
Would it be time for a party?

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No one saw me do it.

Oh my gosh, you must be "Idunno".

My mother had five visable kids, and one invisiable kid named "Idunno".

Whenever something got broke, or the house got wrecked, or the cookies all got eaten... we all said "I dunno" to my mom's questions of who did it.

Eventually he became an invisible kid in our house who took all the blame. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Because we NEVER ratted on each other. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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