Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
| Tax-deductible Donation | Site Tour | Meet Dr. Harley | Basic Concepts | Q&A Columns | Articles | Guidance Forum

Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum

This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at mbrestored@gmail.com
Forums Calendar Active Threads
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 2 of 2 1 2
Re: Move back into Plan A??
myschae #1846188 03/21/07 08:10 AM
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 697
V
vikingruler
Offline
Member
vikingruler
Member
V Offline
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 697
I guess what I am thinking is that I either going back to plan A to hopefully finish off the affair and meet EN's or I am going to plan D where I am just going to be nice to her and take care of the needs of the kids, which is one of her EN's

Right now I tell her, you need to take care of these things, since your the one wanting the D.
WW and Family have dinner together
vikingruler #1846189 03/21/07 07:04 PM
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 697
V
vikingruler
Offline
Member
vikingruler
Member
V Offline
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 697
So I went over to pick up the kids for our Wednesday Dinner, the kids were outside playing along with WW. I got out of the vehicle and the kids swarmed me. We went to the backyard and played on the rope swing.... kids were indicating they were getting hungery.. I offered to the WW that she could come with us and we could eat at CiCi's Pizza and then her and the girls could go to divorce care from there.

We ate dinner, she didn't say much, but funny at the end she opened up and started talking about her work and how interesting it was, I listened and said a few wow's

I get the kids on Friday for my week, she said she had to work all day sunday getting off at 6pm, I offered and she will think about it, to go to dinner after work.
Re: WW and Family have dinner together
vikingruler #1846190 03/22/07 07:50 AM
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 697
V
vikingruler
Offline
Member
vikingruler
Member
V Offline
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 697
bump
Re: WW and Family have dinner together
vikingruler #1846191 03/22/07 01:56 PM
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 697
V
vikingruler
Offline
Member
vikingruler
Member
V Offline
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 697
So my question is should I continue to invite her to family functions and events. I have seen some changes in her since but they might be just countering actions by me..

1) I have stood my ground on family matters, like childrens care and what they do and have done.

2) We are finishing our property distribution and I think the D finality is starting to effect her. Also I have created my own life outside of her and the kids, so I am not obsessed with her anymore.

So I don't want to play nice to appease her, I don't want to help in destroying my family, but when she ask for help with something since there is no other person in her life, shouldn't I meet those needs?
Page 2 of 2 1 2

Moderated by  Fordude 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Forum Search
Who's Online Now
0 members (), 1,117 guests, and 78 robots.
Key: Admin, Global Mod, Mod
Newest Members
Zion9038xe, renki, Gocroswell, Allen Inverson, Logan bauer
72,026 Registered Users
Latest Posts
Help: I Don't Like Being Around My Wife
by rossini - 07/20/25 10:36 AM
How important is it to get the whole story?
by leemc - 07/18/25 10:58 AM
Following Ex-Wifes Nursing Schedule?
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:21 AM
My wife wants a separation
by Roger Beach - 07/16/25 04:20 AM
Spying husband arrested
by coooper - 06/24/25 09:19 AM
Forum Statistics
Forums67
Topics133,624
Posts2,323,520
Members72,026
Most Online6,102
Jul 3rd, 2025
Forum Rules · Mark All Read Contact Us · Forum Help · Marriage Builders
Building Marriages That Last A Lifetime
Feedback | Terms and Conditions | Privacy Policy | Contact Us | Site Map | Account
Copyright © 2025, Marriage Builders, Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Site Navigation
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 8.0.0