I'm not sure if anyone would have any answers for me but I am at my last resort. My husband and I * I thought* had a wonderful marriage we have been married almost three years and together for 8 years we have been through so much together. I still get butterflies when I see him. I'm very much in love with him and it always felt like he was madly in love with me also. I recently found out he's been text messaging with a phone number every day for over 6 weeks. They are not just a few messages here or there but more like 50- 100 in a day. He's been keeping this a secret from me. When I ask him about it he keeps lying. FInally he said that its a counselor and that he is having some issues and nightmares from the war.( My husband is a former Marine and served three tours in Iraq) Besides I know when my husband has a nightmare I can't remember the last time he did and never remembers them anyways. At first I wanted to believe him but what kind of counselor would work from text messages? There were very few calls and they were all under 10 minutes. I asked him to let me talk to this counseler and he says no. He wont let me get anywhere near his phone either.I've called the number and it doesn't have a voicemail message just says the phone number. If he is cheating on me I don't see when he would have time. He works alot and he gets paid overtime so I know he's there and he's home every night. He won't tell me whats going on and he gets upset with me when I try and talk to him about it. I tried everything I've never seen him be so cold to me. This is not like him at all. He just looks and me crying my eyes out and says nothing. I've tried getting angry, crying, begging, leaving, ignorning him, getting drunk, screaming, being calm and rational, nothing is working. He says that he loves me and doesnt want to lose me and he knows how much he's hurting me but he still wont say anything!! I'm lost, I don't know what to do. I would really appreciate any advice anyone has for me.