I found out a couple of months ago that my husband of 13 years had an affair with a very good friend of mine (ex-friend now). I was devistated enough by this as it was, but the added betrayel of her doing that to me threw me over the edge. I never had closure with her. I wish I could tell her exactly what I think, but that would be contact and I don't want to take any chances of her trying to speak to my husband ever again. How do I get through this?

My husband and I have always loved each other and have been working through and believe it or not our relationship is better now than it ever was. We're communicating again and we are meeting each others emotional and physical needs. I still get very sad from time to time trying to get the visions of what happened out of my head. Through conversations with my husband I found out that she pretty much wanted my life. She wanted to leave her husband and have mine. She even begged my husband to run off with her (that would never happen) and was hoping I would have sex with her husband. Yuck! I'm not that type of person. She just wanted her guilt relieved. Did I mention she's a total alcoholic.

A month ago she called my husband and he immediately told her to never call him again and hung up. He then immediately called me and told me. I then called her husband. (Our families used to hang out together every weekend) I was proud of my husband for sticking to the plan. I must admit I wanted to go knock her out.

How can I move forward without feeling the closure of telling her exactly what I think of her? HELP!

Congratulations! Seems like you have a sincere husband which every women would dream of having. The only thing now is for you to let bygones be bygone. In fact, you shouldn't think too much about it already. I had a friend who had the same experience as you and i was so touch by it that i decided to publish it after his approval. I reccommend you to read it. Just click on my signature to read it and it was the original copy from him. Hope it'll help you. Take care.