Well..first time here and really dont know where to begin. Married 14 years. known her for a total of 19 years. two kids. 8 and 5 yrs. Wife told me this weekend that she wants out--she wants a divorce because she does not love me and she has been unhappy for years. I know why as I have caused it. I have been critical of her--criticizing her and making her feel bad over the years. took things for granted. Just a mess. Realized finally what I am doing three months ago and slowly started to work at it but she tells me it is too late and she does not want to be in this relationsip at all. Me--I love her and thinks she is the one..but I am not sure what to do. talked to her all day. everything is civil and all I am asking for her is a chance to work this out. she says she is emotionally done and cannot give me false hope that it will work. needless to say I am devastated. but I know I caused it and I beleive that 19 years of something cannot be just let go but she has dropped a barrier where she has no emotions about it. She says other people admire her and she wants to connect with them. maybe a realtionship and therefore wants out of the marriage.

I have talked and talked to her and at some point I sound like a pathetic person asking for a chance but I have to try. I do love her. Asked her if we can go to a counselor. she says the counselor will not do anything for her. She has made up her mind.

I want to try to save this as I beleive in it..not sure what to do now..