Tigger,

I have been meaning to write to tell you how everything went when my husband deployed. My parents and his parents showed up the day before he left and everything was good. We went out to dinner and his dad and him talked some but nothing like that father son relationship. The day my husband left was terrible, i was extremely emotional i woke up crying telling him i didn't want him to leave and he assured me he'd be home in sept/oct when our baby comes. After we said our final see you laters thats when it all went downhill!!!
On Friday we were really all exhausted esp my parents and his from traveling for two days. So we didn't do much. My MIL and his father secluded themselves from everybody including my children who I thought he was supposed to get to know while he was here ut it was only a day. I thought well hey maybe it'll get better. Damn, things just got worse. It was disgusting. They rubbed one anothers legs, backs held hands acted like teeangers or something just disgusting. THey did this in public too completely embarrased myself and my parents. My son which he loves both grandmas alot did not like this "OM" coming into his grandmas life. My son is 5 and it didn't take him long to catch on what was really happening. I can't say they didn't help pack up my things because they did but the way they were with each other was disgusting. My H and I aren't like that I mean we love each other but there is a limit of PDA.
I will fast forward to when we got home. They left a day before us and they drove our car up. I come to find out instead of staying in a hotel they pull off in a parking lot and sleep in a Wendy's parking lot. I was pi$$ed, im just lucky they didn't get fined. I thought they would have my car at my parents house but they didn't. I called her several times the night I got home and she didn't return my call until around 11 the night I got home. I was beat tired and ready for bed. She said well then you don't need your car. I said YES I do i promised my aunt she could use it because her tire is flat and needs to take it to work so i want it here tonight. I was a ****** but I had to get my point across. I went to bed and they put the keys in a hidden place on the front porch. After that night we didn't see or hear from them for about 3 days, Never called to see how the kids were NOTHING. I was like well you know what, If you are going to treat your grandkids this way when your around him then you know what if you want them to visit your not getting them. Later on the 4th day they came to visit. My son recongized his "new" grandfather but didn't go near him. Later on that night He goes where does daddy's dad sleep, he said with grandma at her house. I said yes he goes I don't like that man, I want him to go back to CA. I couldn't belieave my 5yr said that stuff, but they are smart lil buggers at that age. After the 4th night my daughter got really sick, no eating, the runs, and a temp of 104 almost 105. They NEVER called to see how she was, that just put everything that happened previously on the backburner and i was just full of anger. The day my H's father was to return to Cali, they came to visit. My son was very distant with him, my daughter was for a while I mean after all for him being her for 10 days they only seen them for 3 days maybe 4. My MIL got mad at my son because he didn't give his "new" grandpa a kiss. Im like you know what this man is a complete stranger it will take more then 4 days for him to open himself up to him. I did tell my H when he called and he said I am gunna have to have a talk with her. I hope i didn't loose you in my rambling. But you know my H's dad has been back home for 8 days now and my MIL comes over everyday, calls everyday and even had the kids on the weekend over-night. I think somebody needs to sort things out. She deserves to be happy, but you don't ditch your grandkids esp. when they are so happy to see you and they dont understand where their father is or anything. So tigger i thought i would tell you what happened during my 10 days.

Wow, One Day,

I can say that I'm glad your travels were uneventful as far as getting from point A to point B, but the agrivation could have been left behind. I have to agree that your MIL and H's father were idiots. Yes, the kids really are smart lil buggers! I'm sorry your DD got sick. I'm dealing with illness in our household too, and it's NO fun! We have 7 weeks to go and Sailorman will be home again. We are all looking forward to it, especially our trip, just the 2 of us for 4 nights away! We are so excited, but this is when the time seems to drag on and on for me! How are YOU feeling? Everything ok with the baby? Stop by when you can or when you need to vent. I'll keep you and your H in my prayers!

Tigger

Hi Tigger,

I am doing good for the most part. Finally feeling pregnant, instead of just feeling fat. I haven't been to the doctors yet but my first appt. is next Wednesday and i am extremely excited. I am just ready for my husband to get his butt home again i just miss him alot along, weith my kids missing him as well. I hope everlything goes great with your husbands homecoming i know your excited! Enjoy your vacation also!! We are going somewhere also but still have time to decide. Well take care and i'll keep you posted if anything else changes!!