SL:

You are anticipating what probably happened with PM's H after the "GOODBYE"...

YUP!

PM,
I am forced to ask a simple Q here. How many chapters do you intend to include before this NOVEl concludes?

Are you toying with these good folks. I've seen the very same thing happen before, couples of years ago now. Most haven't been here long enough to have seen this happen, but others, the old timers will remember.

Do you have a particular Q to ask the wonderful people, or are you smehow in this for the entertainment factor?

Why is it you can't finish this blog and ask your Q? It seems to me, you like the fact that you have certain people siiting on the edge of their seats.

This is not an entertainment forum! There are a lot of people here who are hurting in unimaginable ways. Having said that, I sincerely hope you are not trying to take advantage of a captive audience.

Do YOU HAVE A QUESTION FOR THESE FOLKS????

I smell TROLL.

All Blessings,
Jerry

PM is doing this her way and has been helpful to a lot of folks here prior to posting her story.

Carry on, Meggy...

She is definitely not a TROLL..

And we could use some ENTERTAINMENT HERE...

BTW...prior to my H's VERY LAST CONTACT..as I know of..with the OW..he said: "I'M GOING OVER THERE RIGHT NOW TO END IT..

I remember him standing there and saying OUT LOUD to himself: "NO, I CAN'T SEE HER AGAIN..I CAN'T DO THIS ANYMORE".. Mimi realizing: HE GETS IT NOW...HE FINALLY GETS IT...

He called her on the phone right that minute while I LISTENED...

No actually I don't. If you read my very first post on this thread I stated my intention. Entertainment? Whose? I guess you could say that since there is a happy ending. Whatever floats your boat.


I'm sorry if your smeller's off. If you don't like it, then please move on. You don't have to read. I DO enjoy writing and this HAS been therapeutic for me as I'm not very good with verbally expressing myself.

All Blessings to you too.

If you would read the ENTIRE thread, I believe princessmeggy DID explain that she is posting this to help others to see the ERROR of her ways, prior to MB. If others here are REPEATING what she has experienced WITH MB, she is trying to show them the ERROR of their ways.

AND...

I use MB to help ME in any way I can. If I need to tell a joke or read a joke or feel the comraderie of my fellow war weary soldiers, I WILL.

Also, Also, you don't have to read this, now, do you?

PM, I do not feel the least bit offended by your thread. Carry on at your leisure.

I don't really understand what the problem is with someone posting their story. Don't we all do that over time. We are always told to review so-and-so's thread for insight into where we are, BECAUSE THEY'VE BEEN THERE, and you can learn from so-and-so's experiences.

So, let's all just stop posting our own stories? WHAT?

Jerry!!!

PrincessMeggy is most definitely NOT a troll!!! She has helped LilSis in MANY ways and perhaps others that I haven't read...Her story is one of value, just like everyone else's here...I am offended that you would make such an accusation without first doing your research!!! You seem to be lashing out a lot lately...I hope that whatever is bothering you is resolved very soon...Perhaps you should start a thread...

Mrs. W

Thank you Mimi. I appreciate the support.


Thank you SL. That's exactly what I'm doing. I don't understand how someone could think my intentions were to do anyone HARM that have walked and are walking in the pain I experienced firsthand. I would never do that... not in a million years.

Sorry Ladies,

I guess this is a I won't intrude again.

all blessings,
jerry

My FIL died along with his OW in a head on car accident with a mayonnaise truck long before I met my dear FWH. My H had to go to the hospital to identify his dad. He harbored lots of anger towards his dad for what he did to his mom....I believe he embraced his corrupter (his dad) and eventually become a WH himself. He became (for a time) what he hated.

Jerry:

Venus/Mars Thing?

????

If all we ever did around here was Question/Answer...Question/Answer

It would be pretty boring.

I believe that someone who comes to MB Late in the recovery game can add alot. And Meggys thread is adding that.

And sitting on the edge of thier keyboards?

Well yeah. When we get LilSis, and before that Heartsore, we get to live some of these things almost in real time.

We can offer alot of help in those cases, but what Meggy is doing is important.

Both to her, and to others who might follow.

And for that, she can post at her leisure.

LG

Yep LG...Let us not forget that the poster matters too! And I also strongly believe that many will be helped by reading Meggy's thread...She's one of the good guys in my book!!! Long Live Princess Meggy! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

noooooooooooo
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this is a be-patient-listen-and-learn thing

carry on meg

Sorry folks,

I mixed up my prep-H with my polident yesterday and thus, I jumped in here and began to speak as an ***hole.

The good news is, my gums don't itch.

I would also like to apologize to Meg and anyone else I offended.

Have a Blessed Easter all.

All Blessings,
Jerry

shine, that is hilarious! Happy Easter to you, too!

Apology accepted <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thank you.

Have a blessed Easter!

HI, It's taken me a while to read, but I have to thank you not only for this thread but for the advice that you have offered to me in the past....

I am so happy that you are able to write your story down...I agree that it helps...prehaps I'll write mine down one day...

When I was in college, I was taking a parenting class and we had to write our life story down...the teacher said that if we couldn't or if we didn't want her to read it she understood and there was another assignment...

Well, i chose to write it all down and just not have her read it...IT was VERY helpful...

One day I need to pick up from that year until present! LOL

Thanks, PM!

My FWH was doing better physically but still wasn’t able to work. Our finances had gotten so bad that I ended up getting food stamps for us. The bank sent a notice that our house would be sold at auction in March (this was February). I was devastated. We had to start looking for a new place to live. We would have to rent because now our credit was toast.

One night my husband said he wanted to go to the store just to get out for awhile. He was gone forever and I was getting worried. Finally he called. He asked me to come and get him in our daughter’s car, he was not too far from our house. I asked him why? What’s wrong with the car (my slightly used Saturn) and he said it caught on fire. What???!? My daughter and I jumped in the car and drove to where he was. There was a fire truck and a police car there and they had just put the fire out. The whole front of the car was burned up. My husband said that when he turned the corner smoke started pouring out of the vents. The car was engulfed within minutes. Fortunately a passerby called 911. I went to look in the car and there was a house plant in the back seat. Huh?? I asked WH about it and he said he bought it for me as a housewarming gift for our new place. I asked him what took so long and he said he just drove around for awhile after going to the store. The sad thing is I bought that story.

Because my car was a newer Saturn, Saturn agreed to provide me with a rental until they investigated the cause of the fire. FWH and I weren’t getting along very well. I was still hurting and he was still depressed and not completely recovered. He had started working a little bit and a little money began to come in, although not enough to recover our home. We had SF a few times but it was so hard for me. I couldn’t stop imagining the things he did with EWO. I finally told him that I couldn’t live this way. It was obvious to me that he wasn’t over her and that he was just using me. He denied it. He asked for more time. I told him he was going to have to prove it to me.

I insisted one night that he take me out to the club where he met her. He didn’t want to go because he said it would be too awkward for him. I wanted to be seen with him so that all his new friends (and hopefully EWO) would know that we were back together. This was a HUGE mistake on my part. FWH hadn’t drank anything since the accident. I convinced him that one beer wouldn’t hurt. I was SOOO wrong about that. We went and it WAS awkward. We saw only one couple that FWH had made friends with and they were very nice to me. I was happy that I got my way and I knew that that couple would spread the word.

I had never seen and EOW and it was driving me crazy not to know what she looked like. FWH wouldn’t give me any information. I got her address from the court records and my daughter and her girlfriend and I drove by her house. There was a garage sale sign out in the front yard. We drove around to the back and there she was. I was too chicken to get out so I sat in the car. My heart was in my throat. My daughter and her friend went up to the garage sale and her friend even snuck some photos of EOW without her knowledge. EOW told my daughter she was moving. I was hoping she was moving across the country! I couldn’t really see her very well and the photos turned out to be too far away so I still didn’t know what she looked like. It hurt to sit there and look at that house knowing that my FWH had spent many nights there. My imagination went wild.

One of our pre-affair and church friends told us about this great weekend seminar that would probably help both of us. It wasn’t a church-sponsored thing but it had Christian undertones. Our friend sponsored us to go. At that seminar FWH and I were put into separate groups. I was put in an all-women group (not on purpose) and his group was mixed. By the end of the weekend FWH had made friends with several people from his group. They even went out together on Saturday night to a bar to celebrate the end of the seminar. I was hurt that FWH had begun focusing his attention on these new friends (in a matter of days!) One of the guys in his group (I’ll call him Greg) and my FWH hit it off great. The problem is that Greg was a single, younger, party-going guy. After the seminar FWH and Greg started calling each other and “hanging out.” My group didn’t really click and after the weekend was over we never saw each other again.

Our house was sold at auction. The new owners gave us one month to find another place to live.

FWH began hanging out with Greg a lot. I was so mad about this. He was going out a lot and spending the night there every now and then. I finally told FWH that I wanted him out. He wasn’t trying to work on our marriage and I couldn’t believe he was drinking and partying again (this after I convinced him that one beer wouldn’t hurt). FWH had basically moved in with Greg even though a lot of his things were still at our house.

So now there I was again-- no husband, no job, no home and no self-respect.

i have a house and a job but nothing else

i'd say your situation sounds worse than mine except your H is at least still in the picture.....still some connection there which is probably why your marriage recovered