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First off let me say that. I can difinitely tell the difference between having my EN met and when they aren't. I feel so in love with my H in such a short period of time. The way I felt before when I just knew I had had enough and wanted out seems so long ago. I was scared that I was going to have a M like my parents and now I can't imagine life with out my H.
I know if I had acted on what I felt instead of telling my H that I would have had to work a lot harder at trying to restore what we have now. I am so happy I didn't add betrayal to the mix I don't know what to do. I think the reason that I was so hesitant about acting on the attraction I felt was the I too had been betrayed by my first love. I wanted to die. I felt so hurt. I couldn't believe that I could wail as often and as loud as I did when I found out he cheated. I couldn't bear to do that to my H. When it happened I asked God why. Now I see. He was preparing me.
Well as far as the OM goes. Our AC upstairs was not working and I had to call CS and he came over today to check it out. I have to say when I saw him, whatever I felt before was a distant memory. I can't believe I had a crush on him. I still think he is cute but I think my H has got him beat and he is all mine.
I heard somewhere before if you don't act on a craving that it will soon pass and I have to testify that is true. At least for me.
AlsoI found out that he is being transfered to another office so he will no longer be in our subdivision. Everything happens just as it should. In every blessing there is a lesson, and in every lesson there is a blessing.
It took me to be tempted by another in order to work on getting my R where I wanted. I am very thankful.
Me (32) H (33) 3 DD's 9,8,2 1 DS 4 Married 4/19/99 According to Mrs. W I am now Delightful in GA. LOL 
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Congrats DIG,
As a BH, I wish that Mrs GF had the courage to be honest with me before she made the choices that have been so devastating to me and our M. Unfortunately most of those that can learn from your story will not see until the damage is done. On behalf of BH's everywhere I applaud you.
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Congrats. I'm happy for you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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