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good thing your M is recovering b/c that is a horrible pick up line.

*PM wiping up the coke she just spewed on her monitor <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Thank you SL,

It is all part of the Manscaping routine. Nose hair, earhair, chest hair, arm hair.

I go through an electric razor everymonth.

To be metro like me.

It is a great pickup line.

Watch,

Hey now my name if Frog, if you aren't busy later I have some hotwax and some linen strips. You up for it?

Works like a charm.


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When life hands you lemons make lemonade then try to find the person life hands vodka and have a party.
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You guys are seriously going to get me sent to the loony bin! Good thing the office if fairly quiet today or the men in white coats would have already been here! I'm sure after all the tears my co-workers have seen, they are a bit relieved to hear me laugh (even if it looks like I crack up at my monitor)

sdguy, hoped all this banter helped lift those clouds a little bit. I know it always does for me.

Thanks, frog, for pointing out to Strivin how important it is to turn what looks like a negative into a positive. I gain alot of insight from help on my own thread but reading others also makes things click and applies to my own sitch. I would have soooo appreciated a weekend to myself during the M, now I DREAD it. I'm working hard to appreciate it instead. It's almost kind of fun to turn it around and see at as "WH is taking the girls FOR me this wekeend, how nice." And he doesn't even know he is doing something to help me out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

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OK, I'm back to an intermediary again.

I broke down after reading an email regarding time with my son. WH normally spends every other Fri-sat-sun with DS, this is his weekend. I was taking DS to a party after daycare today, but I emailed WH that we would be home by 7PM. He replied that he bought concert tickets but plans to spend EXTRA time with him tomorrow (11AM-8PM instead of 12p-6p). That hurt. I had asked him to avoid talking about his personal time, but he can't seem to cut that chord.

I asked my GF at work to help me out again, she's kind of reluctant, but I can't be breaking down at work. It's nuts, and now the tears are beckoning at the doorstep of my eyes. [email]D@mnit![/email]

Darkness, complete and total will be good; it's what I've wanted all along, maybe I'll finally get it.


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but he can't seem to cut that chord.
or he doesn't want to. Either way it sucks for you.

Keep your head up knowing you are handling this great.

WH,

No worries if you ever want really good advice just look at what I give others. Then process it and try to do the exact opposite.


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I'd like to help, SL, and make the same offer to you that you made to me.

I'd be more than willing to be your intermediary. My email address is (removed).

Please consider it.

I don't know why they have to continue doing that kind of hurtful [email]cr@p.[/email] Why are they determined that we know what they are doing? I thought this was all supposed to be so "secret". Geez! I'm sorry, sl. You've been doing so well, try to brush this one off, too. He is not worthy right now of your wonderful son.

What does that say to your son? Daddy doesn't have time for me today, but he'll try to fit me in extra tomorrow? Unless tomorrow comes and there is something WH would rather do. Darn frustrating!

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Darkness, complete and total will be good; it's what I've wanted all along, maybe I'll finally get it.


You deserve this, SL! Let's see what we can work out. I, too, have a cell phone, email, etc. Technology is so great.

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I'm available as well. sdguy0038@yahoo.com

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HAH! I just got you guys to give me your email addresses. HA HA.

No, seriously. I have worked it out with my GF AGAIN. The problem she had before with the sitch was she was relaying personal info, like "he said he was going to a concert that day", and then I would say, "Well, what else did he say" It was not good. That was about a month into Plan B, last November. I've been without an intermediary for some time now.

I told her that i want ABSOLUTELY no personal info, just the facts and promised her not to push. Even having a line of communication available is crumbs, FOR ME. I don't want crumbs. I want the whole [email]d@mned[/email] cake, or nothing at all. She agrees that this will be good for me. I hope she can do it this time.

Thanks for the support; I'll keep you both in mind if this falls through.


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Hope it works out, SL. Be sure to let us know if you need us.

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I'm walking up the hall toward the protein cold room, and whammo, the words scroll across my mind, "I bought a ticket to the Muse concert..."

Then I get that hot feeling in my chest and the tears well up, AS I'M WALKING THROUGH THE LAB. Not good. It's passing. Well, I can tell you this, I do love my H, for I do not think I would have such a violent, SUDDEN reaction.

I was dealing with this stuff with him last week, and truly thought that the disappointment wouldn't bother me. I was WRONGO!


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Once I get in the car, I can have a few tears fall and then blast some good music and get over it.


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I guess that's why I don't want to talk to mine either...i'm scared that he'll start talking about coming home or say something to hurt my feelings and i just would rather leave things the way they are!

I'm sorry that it hit you like a ton of bricks again...it will get better...


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Believe me, there is still sadness when it does not hit you like a ton of bricks too.


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There should be sadness...how cold and sick would we be if none of this affected us at all.

((((((SL))))))

I am thinking that batman and robin should be hunting him down and inflicting some "BAM" and "POW" action!

Put on some good music and get ready for a beautiful, fun night with your darling son!!!!! That will get you smiling again...he is the best thing in the world!!!


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sorry to hear you had a bad day. the ups and down never stop I guess. good luck with your intermediary. I hope it pans out.


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I really feel for you, SL. The sudden triggers suck, but you know how to get past it.

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Of course you love your H. healthy people can't turn it off like a light switch regardless of the he11 someone puts us through. We married them, we loved them, we procreated with them, they're etched in out hearts forever. I don't want my WW back anymore, but I still love her dearly.

I know it hurts like he11, but this just proves how good of person YOU are.

See you at the BBQ

Also, that's probably the only time I'll ever see the words PROTEIN COLD ROOM and MUSE CONCERT in the same sentence. I also don't know what either one of those things are.


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Also, that's probably the only time I'll ever see the words PROTEIN COLD ROOM and MUSE CONCERT in the same sentence. I also don't know what either one of those things are.


Phew...thought I was all alone. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

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Maybe we watched too much Dukes of Hazard growing up?


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