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Joined: Mar 2007
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My question is: supposing I do go out and hire a PI, and get evidence that he is committing adultery. What real benefit will I get from have adultery as grounds for divorce rather than irreconcilable differences? I will have to spend hundreds of dollars on a PI, they may find out nothing.
I believe I will already have primary custody- but no way to know for sure if he will get nasty or not. If I am thinking the worst- he might try to use my depression against me, try to say I'm a bad mom or something.
Maybe I answered my own question. I should do whatever I can to get the evidence I need for adultery- just in case he tries to be nasty during the divorce, and take the kids, or something like that?
Any advice appreciated.
me- FS-31
M- almost 10 years
WH-33
SS-10
DD-8
DD-4
WH- multiple EA's- at least 3
PA#1- OW was co-worker
PA#2- off and on for 4 years,
so says the OW (2002-2006)
inappropriate, hidden friendships w/women
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Joined: Jul 2005
Posts: 4,138
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i agree with your thinking
proving adultry is only important in MD for custody issues
if you think he might want primary custody, it's worth it
are you sure you don't have enought info without hiring a PI?
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At this point I don't really need the info I might get. Whether he has actually been out in the past month in a EA or PA is almost irrelevant to my feelings. He is wrecking the marriage by not being home, being untrustworthy, leaving the DD's and I to care for ourselves. Lots of emotional things. He has been told to put up, or I'm getting out.
me- FS-31
M- almost 10 years
WH-33
SS-10
DD-8
DD-4
WH- multiple EA's- at least 3
PA#1- OW was co-worker
PA#2- off and on for 4 years,
so says the OW (2002-2006)
inappropriate, hidden friendships w/women
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