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at my appontment today, I asked my my vet about a shock collar.

two people at work advised me to get one after seeing the bite on my hand that i got this week trying to pull my dog off the other one.

they say it will stop him from being so aggressive to the other dog and also allow me to train him to stop jumping on everyone (no one will let him come to thier home and they don't like to come visit me beacuse of him)

i asked my vet today and she said if USED CORRECTLY it can work.

but if used INCORRECTLY it can cause MORE problems with the dog

I told her i wasn't sure about it so she also gave me a card for a behavioral specialist in my area who is currently helping a family train a dog that is so aggressive against their other dog, they were going to have to get rid of it. This dog put the other dog in the emergency room twice already.

just wondering if anyone has had experiences with this to share.

i found this online
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Our third child is in 2nd grade with a very cute and energetic little boy who now seems sad. His mother had an affair and divorced the Dad. It was amicable divorce. The father is now remarried and now has a new baby and a 10 year old stepdaughter. The mother, meanwhile, told me she is getting married to her boyfriend. I asked the wedding date, and she said she didn't have one yet because her boyfriend wants to have them live together first and she wants to be married first.

Do you think she has regrets about what she did? She didn't say. Is it too late? Probably yes, since the Dad has two children by two different women.

I feel for that little boy in my daughter's class. The last time I saw him, no one had picked him up after school so he was going into After School Care. How would you feel if neither parent picked you up after school?

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cherishing

did you mean to post that on this thread?

is so, i don't understand it's connection to my question

could you please explain?


trying to relate your post somehow to my thread....are you saying he's home alone or missing my H?

my dog was only 8 months when my H left, he's going to be 4 soon. He's really not that used to having my H around. also, i work during the day like everyone else so he's not home alone more than usual.

He's acted very "food possessive" ever since we got him. that's why he jumped on his brother which led to the bite.

maybe because he was the runt of the litter and had to fight for food. he's always jumped on people also. my H raised the other dog and was much more consistent and firm

honestly, with my sorld falling apart around me, i was way to soft on the little guy and he never learned to listen. i've just never been very good at disciplining him


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eav,

I tried a shock collar with my dog once. He chewed it off.

My dad used one with his dog, and it worked.

My brother is a dog trainer, and he uses shock collars, but also uses a device that makes some sort of a sound from the collar that annoys the dog until he lies down, instead of shocking the dog.

The behavioral specialist for dogs is probably the best advice. Trainers can quickly get to why the dog is aggressive and really help you work with the dog to change the behavior. It takes the parent to get the dog in shape, and the trainer can teach you to teach the dog daily. That's what really will make the change.

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eav - if you have the National Geographic channel on your cable TV, please watch *The Dog Whisperer*. He deals with problems just like yours on every show.

If you don't have the show, you can get his book. His name is Cesar Milan. Just ask for his book at your bookstore or see if you can get it from amazon.com.
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thanks schoolbus and mulan

the shock collar my vet talked about has both a shock button and a noise button to choose from

i do think i get the national geographic channel

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Hi Eav...speaking of off topic. Meldoylane sent me here to ask you if you have Jennifer's email address. I had an appointment scheduled for this evening, wife told me she wants a D, so I cancelled it in haste. Now I want the appointment to happen. Thx.

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sorry honest

i don't have her e-mail address.

to contact her, i sent an e-mail to the MB office and asked them to forward it to her. their address is:

office@marriagebuilders.com

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eav, my dog has the shock collar, although we got it for another reason. She is about as wimpy and loveable as any dog I have ever seen, so aggression is not her problem. When we fenced in our yard a few yrs ago she began barking suddenly while outside, just for the fun of it. I was hesitant to get the shock collar because she is so wimpy I thought one shock and she'd never go outside again. However, she was trained instantly. It is amazing! I need new batteries in the thing and now she's barking again, the little bi***!

I have another miracle cure for walking and jumping that we got her when she was a puppy. She was so happy to see people that she'd jump on them and twirl while walking. We purchased the "gentle leader", which is a special collar. They call it the 10 minute attitude adjustment. It also is amzing. When people come over I will put it on her until she calms down. It's great! Every time I see a crazy dog pulling their master I want to just yell out "Get a gentle leader!"

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thanks very much for the info cv

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i'm one of those people with the dog pulling her!!

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eav, get the gentle leader. You won't believe how your dog will behave while walking. With the choke collar my dog would still pull, while choking at the same time. Kind of stupid! This collar hits certain pressure points that just makes the dog behave. I'm surprised I don't see more people using it.


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