In my unfaithfulness with my wife I have come across a few situations that I would like assistance in. I have had one affair since I have been married to my wife. My suggestion to my wife in ending this affair has been that I will not initiate communication with the lover since I do not have an email address for her. All I have is a telephone number which she and I text to each other with. Our conversations have been infrequent over the last couple of weeks. She resides in England and I reside with my wife in another country. If the lover should contact me again, I was going to ask her for an email address and send her the following "It was very wrong and completely selfish of me to cause those I love so much pain, and while marital reconciliation cannot completely repay for my offense, it's the right thing to do. I care deeply and more than anything in this world about my wife and children, and for their protection, I have decided to completely end any relationship with you of any kind permanently. I have promised my wife that I will not see or communicate with you again in my life, and I ask that you respect that promise."

Do you have any suggestions?

There have been a number of women over the years whom I have not had sexual relations with, but whom I have had a sexual conversations with. One of these woman has sent me a sexually orientated message yesterday, which my wife has read. I have not responded. The situation is that this person was in the process of becoming a client of our firm. What do you think of sending the above message to this person adn returning her funds and paperwork?

There are several woman whom I have not had contact with in what has been more than one year whom I previously had sexual conversations with, should I try to reach out to them and send them the above message?

There are several woman whom I have not had contact with from anywhere from ninety days to ten years that I have had sexual relations with one or more times, should I try to reach out to them with the above message?

I look forward to your suggestions.