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#1854163 04/01/07 09:54 AM
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I am curious, I have done alot of reading and need advice on Timelines for Plan A & B. I did PLan A for about 6-8 mo. during which time she was in great turmoil about what to do, but still maintained reln with OM. I have been in PLan B for abour 6 mo. Have started proceddings for legal separation because she is showing no signs of easing up on the affair, if anything the affair with OM her business partner is deepening. She has been in apartment since Plan B started. Was hoping separation would spur her to get off the fence, but appears to have backfired. I have 3 daughters at home with me in matrimonial home. Married 22 years, feeling like I should start to make plans to move on. I love her so much, but she is blind to what she is doing to us and the family. How long before you call it quits. Dr Harley said in one article up too a year or two after the divorce. That seems excessive and unwillingness to admit failure and move on

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tho, the timeline of Plan B is ENTIRELY PERSONAL. Some can last 2 years, some cannot. In Plan A, a good timeline for women is 6wks to 3 months. Men from 3 to 6 months.

Dr. Harley believes that most affairs end in about 2 yrs from exposure, so if a BS WANTS to save the marriage, they should wait 2 yrs. But again, that all depends on YOU. Personally, I would move on, but others don't and there is nothing wrong with that choice.

Have you exposed her affair? That is a very critical step of Plan A that shouldn't be skipped.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101



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