Orchid made some great points, I can associate. Am I addicted? No. I post when I want to. I read when I need to.

I can post if I want to, I can read if I want to. If my WW wife hates it, I will respect her by not doing it in front of her. If we were recovered, I wouldn't give it up for POJA, as I would never enthusiastically agree to sacrifice something I value which has been nothing but beneficial to me personally. If I recover my marriage, it will be because of the people here who pulled me kicking and screaming through a small grate of self-pity and fear.

I've been watching this thread for a bit, since the beginning - it's quite interesting. I must admit I found the title insensitive, which drew me here in the first place. It's amazing how FWS find MB so repulsive, it's a "cult". Hmmm...yes, a cult of emotionally raw folks who found the support to do some of the most courageous things they have ever done in their entire lives. Some save their marriages, others save themselves. I, for one, will save one or the other.

Just my $ .02

Best wishes & prayers for your continued recovery,

Jay