I read the 5 Love Languages book after my D-Day, and learned that giving gifts is a "love language". If the WS refuses all contact, then try sending gifts. I would recommend gifts just for them, not anything romantic or necessarily something you would give a spouse. For example, I gave to my WW a DVD of a movie I know she likes, a t-shirt with a theme she's into, but no flowers, initimate wear, tix to cruise, etc.
In my sitch, I still have contact with my WW, mostly b/c we have 2 kids. Can you give us more details on your sitch? Has your WS refused absolutely any and all contact? There must be some opportunities where contact is made, even if it's soley for business, like picking up things left behind. If any such opportunities do come up, make the most of it and maybe complement the WS on how good they look, be extra nice, and ask how they are doing out of genuine concern for them.
The vets here describe as part of Plan A taking care of yourself. Can you lose some extra pounds? Could you use some new clothes? Make it a point that if the WS should ever make contact with you again, that they see you as happy and physically attractive, make 'em think twice about leaving you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
FWH, BS (me), 43 BS, FWW, 42 DS 20, 13
PAs With W's Sister's Friend & Prostitute - SF Only (me), 1992-93 Married July 1994 Hit On W's Underage Sister & Close Friends, 1996-98 I Confessed Everything, Spring 1998 My D-Day, Jan. 2007 She Moved Out, Feb. 2007 Filed For D 4/18/07 For Legal Protection, Did Not Pursue
FWW Moved Back Home 08/05/07 Status: I'm Not Sure (original thread of my sitch lost)
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