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Throughout this crummy affair thing I've always felt that my grounded, science-based, logical H was in an altered state of mind. The latest dilemma he's having is that he read the book "After the Affair" (BIG step for him, I am proud---to avoid confusion, it's the book by Janis Spring). Anyway, she mentions in there that the unfaithful spouse often goes through guilt for the OW for all the implied promises they made. He wanted to call her of course, which I vetoed. I tried to compare his guilt to working through that he had over the affair and he informed me he had none because it felt so wonderful nor did he have guilt over all of our implied promises in our marriage. What on earth is this mentality all about? Just another aspect of withdrawal? This sucks!<BR> Thanks, Jenn<P>------------------<BR>

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Jenny - It IS aliens! I hate them too. Don't know what to do about them though except wait them out. Hopefully, they'll leave sooner or later.<P>Hold on - it's a long ride.<P>Lori

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Or he caught the disease that is going around called Mushbrain disease.....<P>

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I believe it got to be aliens <B>from hell</B>... right next to Lucifer's place...<P>Jim

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After brief affair, and when my H was going through alcohol withdrawal (from trying to quit drinking), he was moody, unpredictable and sometimes insensitive. He was a Dr.Jekyl/Mr.Hyde. He was a pain in the (you-know-what) to live with. My Sister often referred to him as an alien whose body was taken over. I guess "alien" is a perfect word for him because the way he behaved was so uncharacteristic and alien to me.


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