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Hello!

I have the cell phone number and first name only of the OM my WW is having an EA with.

Is there a reliable way to get his last name, home address, etc. so I can expose the EA to his wife?

I tried looking on line, and the best I found was a deal where it would cost $15 to do it, but I am worried it is not legit and I do NOT want to give out my c/c # to find this information.

Any help would be appreciated.

Thanks!

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I have used this repeatedly with (unfortunately) good results.


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Might be a little unorthodoxed, but you could have a friend call the number and offer a deal too good to pass up...like a telemarketing deal where you need to get full name and address to send the offer to. It had to be something really good though, but you don't have to send the fake "prize". Just have to get him to bite on it.

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I assume you have already tried the reverse look ups that are free like "anywho"?

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A little social engineering...

Another thing you could do is call and say (in a very business-like voice) "OM?" When he says, "Yes...", say "OM Smith?" (or some other made-up last name). When he says no... then you say, "hmmmm, this is Mr. madeupname with the IRST (fake organization so you won't get in trouble- most people won't catch the T), who am I speaking with? OM who? When he gives you his full name then you say, "Oh, pardon me, I DO have the wrong number."

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P.S. If you use your cell phone, make sure your number is blocked!


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I assume you have already tried the reverse look ups that are free like "anywho"?

The problem is that it is th OM CELL phone number, which I cannot find in a free reverse directory, only pay ones - I will pay if I have to, but I would obviously prefer a free one <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

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In our case, and we have had 2 sets of cell numbers our numbers are only 1 number apart from each other, eg 555-1212 & 555-1213, try his number and alter the last digit and ask the person who answers if they are his wife, worst that happens is they say no.

If they have a family plan,
this is probably the case, and we had nextel & verizon.

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