She was my first girlfriend and she was easy. all I had to do was not cheat on her and she was crazy about me. She first asked me out and she told me to kiss her and she told me she loved me and I responded in kind cause I knew I was supposed to. Everyone loves her because she is a sweet girl, but no one knows what it is like to be married to her but me. Everyone said "you should marry her", "You better hang on to her". So I gave up on my dreams and goals at 19 and we got married. We did not have sex until we got married. I ceased to live from that day and I just kind of existed. There are things I want to do that a married man can't do. I don't mean screw a random girl or go drinking every night. I still have my dreams and ambitions for a different life, but she loves her life she thought she was perfect until I told her I was leaving, but now she wants to change and I don't buy it. You change for yourself because you want to not for someone else thats ends up being fake and temporary.

I disagree. You do things lots and lots of times for those you love. And so who cares the reason why she changes, just so she changed. Maybe I am look at it really simplistically but that is my 2 cents.

The grass isn't always greener. Think long and hard before you make that decision - you might find that "the stuff that dreams are made of" are right there in your own back yard - to quote the old Carley Simon song.

If she's willing to do things and change for you, in an effort to make her life better, you've got damned close to the perfect mate.

I envy you - but it's a shame that you *appear* to be taking her for granted.

I changed my whole life to follow my H's dreams - and did it gladly. We are divorced now for other reasons, but the life I made here I wouldn't change - I followed his dreams to where I am, and I made my own.

It's the stuff that dreams are made of.

JinGA