I recently found out that my wife is having an affair. Well I tried to make it work out but of course I heard the usual "I love you but not in love with you" type thing. When I found out within that week she agree she would not have contact with him. Yet last week she told me she was going out of town to meet up with some friends but turns out she went with him. So when she came back I confronted her and she admitted she was with him so I kicked her out and now she at his house but staying in different rooms. She doesn't know what she wants and I still want to make things work. Whats next???

I am very sorry for your pain and that you have to be here. Under the circumstances it is the best place to be.

This part of the forum is not very busy. General Questions II is usually much busier.

Kicking her out was not real smart. All that did was let her carry on her affair with your permission.

Do you have children? How long have you been married?

Have you read the articles here on the site? Have you read surviving an affair by Dr. Harley? Those are must reads.

It is much easier to work on the marriage if you are living in the same house. Will she come home?

Does she work with the other man? Have you read about exposure? You really need to expose this to everyone who can have an impact and help you break this up.

I don't want to sound mean, but do you honestly believe she is sleeping in a different room?

You might want to repost your question in general questions

Yea I have the books, we been together for Nine years and married for only ONE. I expose this to everyone her family his family...going to talk to his commanding officer on Friday. The [email]assh@ole[/email] a marine.