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I was wondering about this and saw the posting from hopefuldad. Was considering this myself, but had myself convinced it wouldn't do any good because they are divorced. I am curious if this is why they are divorced though. I don't know her, so I don't know where her parents are. I would like to do that. I have been warned that she plans to give my H a hard time and does have plans to make a scene with me at some point. My H assures me he hasn't seen her since last year and can't understand why she would do this now. Her sister already knows I think, as both her and her son live with her sister, so I don't think I'd get anywhere there. Maybe I will try to give her a call though. What do you say? Did you know your sister was f'ing my husband?
Is this really a good thing to do?
stupid wife
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I have been warned that she plans to give my H a hard time and does have plans to make a scene with me at some point.
this is drama
and none of your concern....
if you are aware of actual actions that are threatening to you and your family seek legal routes...
if you are focusing on dramatical emotional confrontations...
plotting your reaction and response...
don't..
it's wasted energy
if she ever approaches...
smile...
walk away....
do not respond or react...
just smile and turn away...
calling her sister is not productive either....
you need to reign the energy you are spending on her...back on to you and your situation
ARK
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Yes,
The only reason you expose is to get a WS to see the affair in the light of day so that pressure can be placed on the affair itself in order to get the affair stopped.
Since it seems you are certain that the affair is stopped, all of your energy should be placed within your home and hearth. You can continue to monitor your FWH's activities: cell phone records, e-mail, travel. But this monitoring does not have to include anyone but you.
Do not escalate their stupid drama. They probably do not like to invest time and energy into productive work and productive lives, so they create drama. Stay away from it. Think of them as crazy people that can only harm you when you engage them. Stick with recovery issues between you and your H.
Regards,
Lake
Lake
BW-53
FWH-54
H had EA 3 weeks 06
Married 1977
N C 4-10-06
3 DSs
In Recovery
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