I think it was a couple of years ago that you said something that had a profound impact on me at the time, and continues today.

You said in a post to both graycloud and me something to the effect of "why don't you envision what you want your life to look like a year (two years) from now?"

I don't remember the exact words you used but something about what you said hit me like a ton of bricks, and from that day forward I set about to envision the person I wanted to become, the life I wanted to have...and then to accomplish that.

Well as you know, the envisioning is where all the real work is, the accomplishing part is easy after that.

I saw a quote the other day that reminded me that you helped me to change my life with your simple words. Said at just the right time...it was a life jacket for me, and one I could easily grab, once someone laid it out for me.

I told our friend 2long that I would be forever grateful for the glimps inside some awesome minds I have been allowed by this website, as well as the chance to learn how to someday to become a person worthy of marriage.

Well you are one of those awesome minds, and I wanted to say thank you for caring enough to give the words that helped me changed my life.

"You will never leave where you are, until you decide where you'd rather be" ~~Dexter Yager

Thank you SD!

Wow! At my ripe age not many things can make me :::<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />::, but your post certainly did!

Like so many of us here, we read and post just hoping something we say is of some importance to someone, and does make a difference. These forums are what life should always be about; people helping people.

Thank you for your kind words!

SD

Yes, I knew it would embarass you. I hemhawed over it for about 3 seconds, and then wrote it anyway. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Weaver, I would have expected no less, with your sense of humor. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> And you have certainly helped many people here with your own brand of wisdom. Thanks again for your kind words.

SD

Weaver,

I just realized I've never posted to you but wanted to tell you thanks for your '04 thread about exposure to the OPS. I think it was you (or Bob P. or WAT) that said that exposure to the OPS was your "Ace in the Hole". I misread (and misunderstood and misposted) it but after the ensuing 2x4s it all worked out. My H and I (POJA) exposed to OPS in early Feb. and we are well on the road to recovery.

Thank you both (and all MB board vets et al) for your commitment to helping us newbies.

Ace

Wow, good for you two! I think if I had MB back when my DD's dad was cheating on me...well things may have turned out differently.

I also caused somebody a lot of pain, and this is my way of paying back, I guess.

Or maybe it's just an addiction. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Thank you Ace!

Where would we newbies be without your (and other board vets') "intense commitment to help"---possibly also perceived by some to be 'an MB Addiction'?

In our early stages of recovery, I have an intense need for help but am fortunate that my H recognizes how helpful MB is for me and encourages me to read/post, even if it means more work for him around the house.

Ace

SD, thanks from me too. You really helped me out and gave me hope when I needed it. W and I are doing well. We're 4 months into recovery and we're working on moving into a new house.

Thanks, normalguy! If you are doing well 4 months into recovery, that's a really good sign. Beware the 6 months curse as it approaches...it seems a lot of triggers and baggage seem to pop up in that time frame. If you handle all those things in the Marriage Builder's way, it should be like a minor speedbump in your recovery!

There were a number of us very nervous about you buying that house. I hope it stands as a monument to a man and his wife working together towards a harmonious marriage!

Best wishes,
SD