It was suggested that I think about plan B. How do I know if I'm ready for that though? H has ended EA and we are in MC together and I'm in IC. (he was in IC as well for internet dating, but then ended up "friends" with his counselor, so that is now in NC) I think that he is planning on seeing our MC separately for IC, who is a man btw. We've been separated for a year now. He says he loves me and wants to save our marriage but puts almost no effort into it. I'm hoping that through MC he will learn how to deposit some into my love bank. It's almost empty I'm afraid. We also have so much from the past that's still unresolved that I'm just angry every time I see him these days. I really think the love is almost gone. I'm so very angry with him it's almost hate at this point. It makes me very sad to have us come to this. Is this the reason then for plan B then? To preserve what little love there may be left? Won't that just convince him I do want to divorce? Or does it occasionally act as a kick in the butt for them to put forth some effort to win the BS back?