This should probably go in recovery but when I was a frequent poster on MB I gravitated toward GQII so I figured I'd post here. Amazing to me that Ark^^, Pep, ML, Just Learning, and others are all still here handing out sage advice. I'm forever indebted to you guys, and many others.

I wish I had the fortitude to be a regular poster. So many times the BS feels no hope whatsoever and yet it's obvious to some who have been through it (and seen many others go thorugh it) that things are far from hopeless. I'd like to help others, and offer a bit of perspective, as was so generously done for me "back in the day." Being here for very long usually churns up old dormant feelings of turmoil for me. Not sure if that will be the case now or not.

At any rate, we're going stronger than ANY marriage I know. How is it that I am so lucky? He's my best friend, my confidant, my most amusing playmate, my staunchest supporter. I truly wake up every morning being thankful that he is in my life.

In a nutshell: He got in touch with his old high school sweetheart, love bank instantly overflowed, a heated EA (long distance) ensued in-my-face. It died but I felt we never discussed the "why" of it all. He felt there was no "why", just instant attraction from a young first love. I got into an EA because it bolstered my self esteem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> BS, you are *very* vulnerable! Protect your M at all times!

That's four years in the past now and I rarely think about it. When I do, I don't feel the pain of it, instead I am reminded how precious my M is and I am reminded to always nurture it and protect it.

hey turtlehead, so glad to hear you are doing well! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hiya, Turtlehead! I swear I was thinking about you just the other day!

I'm so glad you're happy and your marriage is thriving. Well done! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Lori

turtlehead!

Very happy 2 hear your update! In spite of (or maybe because of) the fact that I've been here a billion years now, it's always uplifting 2 hear a positive update like yours from someone I followed for so long.

Most recovered marriages go unreported here because, frankly, they're recovered! And living life!

best,
-ol' 2long

Wow, to be honest I didn't really expect anyone to remember me, it's been Soooo long and I've never been as active a poster as many. Now I have a big swelled up head <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I don't know why I was drawn here a couple of days ago, but I was. I lurked, and saw so much pain. I felt compelled to inject a little "light at the end of the tunnel" sentiment.

Usually the M does recover and when it doesn't, to be honest, I think the person working on the failed M is better off without the M anyway, though of course they can't see that at the time. Whether or not the M recovers, the *person* does, if they follow Harley's principles.

Wow, to be honest I didn't really expect anyone to remember me.....

I can't believe you would say that. (grin)

Good to hear from you. Glad things are doing so well.

Live long, and prosper.

SS

Hi Turtlehead, I remember you VERY well. You may not have posted much but your posts were always worth reading.

It's funny because I was watching TV the other night and something came on about turtles and I thought of you as well. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Well, the turtle sticks her head out of the shell. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Good to hear from you and even better to hear that things are going well.

God Bless,

JL

Hi! I remember you too!

*waving*

HI <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Pep

TH I was reading your old post and I have to say a lot of the things you were saying sound just like I feel. I want to know how did you get over the feelings of wanting to leave I struggle with that as well as my H not really wanting to work on the R because he feels like everything is ok. I am just tired. I think it's why something told you to post I needed to talk to someone who has been where I am and has worked things out. Please help and welcome back.

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