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Since I confronted OM job this morning, my wife is so upset she said she not coming back to me. I don't know how much I can take of this. I love her sooooo much I can't walk away yet but to all the vets out there how true are her words or is just trying to protect him??? Now she won't pick up my calls/text...

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With reading through the stickied posts in - just found out - forum, it says that it should pass, and its to be expected for them to throw a huge fit. My WS did, he's over it now, if thats of any comfort.

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yea it is comforting...so how long was he mad for

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namese90, when you interfere with affair like this, they do tend to get mad. They threaten to divorce, blah, blah, blah. Yours threatened to "not come back." GEE, WAS SHE COMING BACK?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

blah, blah, blah, blah, blah......

She will be mad for a few days and then will come down to earth.


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I hope thats the case...well she didn't even know what she wanted me or him. So with this he has no choice and to stay away or his a$$ is gonna be in BIG trouble with the marines.

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my wife is so upset she said she not coming back to me

I wasn't aware she was even planning on coming back. When was this supposed to happen? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />


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I hope thats the case...well she didn't even know what she wanted me or him. So with this he has no choice and to stay away or his a$$ is gonna be in BIG trouble with the marines.


oh dear, I think I am gonna cry! WAAAAA! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/teary.gif" alt="" />


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well she said she doesn't know what she wants and said she not coming back to me at all now since i made contact with om job

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well she said she doesn't know what she wants and said she not coming back to me at all now since i made contact with om job

She wasn't planning on coming back at all. but she is now much more likely to come back since you ruined her affair.

How old are y'all?


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I'm 25 and WW is 26

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Just wondering but Melody how long did your stiuation last since your happily recovered.

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Your wife is saying what they all say. I suggest you go down to the store and buy some popcorn. Might as well enjoy the next act of the show. She will say that now you've done it, she was going to work on the marriage, but now she's not, you are crazy, you had no right, you went about this the wrong way, it was none of your business, how could you, this is the straw that broke the camel's back, and my personal favorite - she will never trust you again.

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namese, my situation lasted about 30 minutes because I kicked my H out when I found out. I wasnt' interested in being married to a bum. He came back and I did give him a chance to prove himself, which he did.


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Your wife is saying what they all say. I suggest you go down to the store and buy some popcorn. Might as well enjoy the next act of the show. She will say that now you've done it, she was going to work on the marriage, but now she's not, you are crazy, you had no right, you went about this the wrong way, it was none of your business, how could you, this is the straw that broke the camel's back, and my personal favorite - she will never trust you again.

now, now, believer, you know dey mean dat!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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you forgot one! "I am going to file on Monday!!" [but Monday never seems to come! hahahahaaa]


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I know, Mel. I have a list with about 100 of the things they say, which I keep adding to (Thanks everyone for contributing!!!!), but it is at work.

Anyway, namese, I hope you are now at the store getting the popcorn. This will get much worse before it gets better, but you have done the best thing to save your marriage. It usually lasts about a week, so hope you get a case.

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believer, can you make a thread out of that if you get a chance?? That would be great to have a good list of typical FOG SPEAK threats we hear after exposure! And you are so good at remembering all the good ones!


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Will do.

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thankee! I keep thinking how valuable that will be to the folks who expose. Maybe it will calm them down some. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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Yea thanks believer she said most of what you just mention which helps me out so yea starting a thread would be awesome and yea i'll pick up some popcorn

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