Just about every precursor known to man was present when my wife had her affair. I ran down the list over time and tried to find a link, if any, so I could really understand the root causes. I had given up after concluding it was beyond my ability to understand given the time and academic background that I didn't have. Then I got a clue.

I want to run this by those on here who care to comment. I will use a single word and expand from there.

The word is; Attachment.

If a woman feels an attachment, she won't cheat. If she doesn't, she may or may not depending on her moral compass and an assortment of other emotional conditions. By attachment, I mean an emotional dependence of some sort, be it for the support she gets emotionally or something else the details of which I dunno since I am not a female.

I have a glimmer of an idea. Is this real or memorex? What say you?

Larry

Emotional dependence is, to me, an unhealthy thing. Being emotionally dependent on someone is the definition of "co-dependent." There's an old C&W song that goes something like, "I don't need you, but I want you," and that seems awfully apt to me.

I believe you have the cart before the horse. I've seen an analysis written about the initial stage of love. It went something like, "One is attracted to a prospective mate because emotional needs (requirements) are superbly met by that person." I don’t think that’s the same thing as being “dependent” on someone, or perhaps I don’t understand what you’re saying. Can you elucidate?

Larry wrote:
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If a woman feels an attachment, she won't cheat.
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I don't think that is an absolute. I think that it is true sometimes, even then, it would have to depend on the constituents of the attachment.

God bless,
Gimble

I think "Respect" would be closer to a one-word reason myself.

Attachment worked the other way for my FWW, she felt attachment for OM and that formed the basis for a LTA.
For me, she just felt friendship, distain, disregard, disrespect... I don't know but it wasn't as strong as this attachment.

V/r,
NW