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Sorry for the OT, but just trying to say that your mileage may vary for exposure to parents and OP's parents. They will put pressure on the A, but don't put all your hope in them alone that it will end the A, because most of the time, parents knowing about the A is not enough to end it. Dev...I may be the only case here, but after I exposed myself to my mom, she was FURIOUS...Unbeknowst to me, she and Mr. W spoke and formulated a plan where she called OM and threatened him BIGTIME (she'd known OM and his parents since he was a kid)...You wouldn't believe all that she said, and I truly believe she would have made good on those threats if the OM had not ended it with me the very next day-WITHOUT telling me why-I found out MUCH later...Suffice it to say that my mom ROCKS! Anyway, just wanted to say, that exposure to parents CAN have a VERY significant impact...I am so grateful for that... Sorry for the threadjack Eph...Way to go! Mrs. W
FWW ~ 47 ~ MeFBH ~ 50 ~ MrWonderingDD ~ 17 Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered
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no problem - I am glad to have anyone's input on this.
It's one of those things that can go either way. It didn't sound like OM's dad was in shock.
We will see.
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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eph, no matter the outcome, it will be a success because it embarrasses the OM.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Wow, your mom does ROCK!  Anyway, don't get me wrong.. I fully support and am glad that Eph exposed. It IS the right thing to do. Just wanted to share my POV and my experience on when I exposure to my parents and in-laws
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BS - 31 (me)
WW - 29
M ~2 years, No kids
DDay - 2nd Dec 2006
Exposed - 15th Jan 2007
NC started - 14th Jan 2007
NC broken 23rd Jan 2007
NC broken many times since
Status: WS moved out 22 March 07 "to think"; A ongoing still; 2nd July 2007 - signed Divorce papers "I'm done!"
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The response that always disgusts me is: "I just want Sally to be happy. <squeek>" GOOD GRIEF. I guess we should be happy that Sally is a not a serial killer or a child molestor, because that brainless wonder of a parent would be encouraging her to "do what makes you happy!" DUH
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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MrsW's mom is SOOO COOL!! I love DAT GAL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Just wanted to let everyone know this thread was the last thread I read before I exposed, and was my last drop of inspiration to follow through with exposing. I got a list of phone #s for the OM's name in the city where he's from, attempting to contact his W. I just so happen to call his parents first, and the OM immediately called me to deny everything. That alone, whether he's telling me the truth or not, I believe will greatly discourage him from the EA (at the minimum) he was having w/ my WW. I then went ahead and exposed to my ILs, and so far it is working out for me. They seem to be on the right side, the side of marriage & family, and her mother is demanding that WW and her speak alone in person. Exposing sure is empowering ain't it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
FWH, BS (me), 43
BS, FWW, 42
DS 20, 13
PAs With W's Sister's Friend & Prostitute - SF Only (me), 1992-93
Married July 1994
Hit On W's Underage Sister & Close Friends, 1996-98
I Confessed Everything, Spring 1998
My D-Day, Jan. 2007
She Moved Out, Feb. 2007
Filed For D 4/18/07 For Legal Protection, Did Not Pursue
FWW Moved Back Home 08/05/07
Status: I'm Not Sure
(original thread of my sitch lost)
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good for you SadPunk. I am glad I was able to inspire someone else.
I hope things work out for you.
I also am anticipating a possible call from OM. I would rally like to talk to his mom, but I doubt she will call me back.
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In my case, OW called ME because I threatened to my WS that I would expose them and not let her off the hook so easily. She said that she had wanted to call me to apologize "for a while now" Yeah right. Lesson learned: 1. NEVER threaten exposure, just do it 2. Don't get into a pissing contest with OP, not worth it and whatever comes out of their mouth are bound to be lies anyway Keeping my fingers crossed for the both of you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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BS - 31 (me)
WW - 29
M ~2 years, No kids
DDay - 2nd Dec 2006
Exposed - 15th Jan 2007
NC started - 14th Jan 2007
NC broken 23rd Jan 2007
NC broken many times since
Status: WS moved out 22 March 07 "to think"; A ongoing still; 2nd July 2007 - signed Divorce papers "I'm done!"
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something is bugging me about the conversation with OM's father, but I can't seem to put my finger on it.
he seemed too calm and easily recalled the instance of meeting WW 10 years ago.
That's going to bug me today.
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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something is bugging me about the conversation with OM's father, but I can't seem to put my finger on it.
he seemed too calm and easily recalled the instance of meeting WW 10 years ago.
That's going to bug me today. Let it go. It doesnt matter. Remember, they will do what they will do. You continue on mission.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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