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For those wanting the truth #1859592 04/15/07 01:12 AM
Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 8,297 K KiwiJ Member
KiwiJ Member K Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 8,297	I read this on another site and I've been given permission to use it here. It is how a BS got the truth from her WH. She (and he) wanted to recover but she felt she wasn't getting the "whole" story. He didn't understand WHY she needed it so bady. So she did this. "I tell him this: "Imagine a police officer holding a briefcase rings your doorbell and tells you "BS" is dead. You ask: "What? How?" The police officer says: "It doesn't matter. All you need to know is she is dead". You say: "But when? Where? Who caused it? Did she suffer?" The police officer says: "Sir, I have all that information right here in my briefcase. But you don't need to know any of it. It may hurt you. You may cry. It will be painful. You will get angry. All you need to know is BS is gone." Her WH told her all the remaining information.

Re: For those wanting the truth KiwiJ #1859593 04/15/07 01:15 AM
Joined: Jan 2001 Posts: 17,837 O Orchid Member
Orchid Member O Joined: Jan 2001 Posts: 17,837	Excellent!!! I told mine if he didn't tell me all, he w/b living with misery forever with or without me. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> It still took time but it eventually came out. Now he deals with my recovery even 3 years later. Yep..... I am still in recovery. Why? Because the wound was deep and requires a lot of care. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> It is now H's job to help me recover. I set no timeline. He will know when I am recovered, when I know I am recovered. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> L.

Re: For those wanting the truth Orchid #1859594 04/15/07 01:42 AM
Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 4,383 A aussieswife Member
aussieswife Member A Joined: Oct 2004 Posts: 4,383	Thats a great way to put it Jen. Very good to explain it in that manner. Orchid I wonder sometimes if maybe recovery is the right word to use. Not sure what is but I guess it will do as good as any until a better description comes along. Why because its more than just recovery, its building a new relationship after the old one was killed. And the BS had NO say in it. What ever it is I enjoy finding ways to help my H though. I don't take anything for granted these days, especially having him in my life. After all, two men in a staff officer's car could end it all in a few minutes. Makes it all pretty real what I have to lose. Yep I'm lucky!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Life may feel as if you are constantly getting kicked on a daily basis, living is about picking yourself up each day and going on and on and on regardless.

Re: For those wanting the truth aussieswife #1859595 04/15/07 10:12 PM
Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 8,297 K KiwiJ Member
KiwiJ Member K Joined: Feb 2004 Posts: 8,297	^bump^

Re: For those wanting the truth KiwiJ #1859596 04/15/07 10:16 PM
Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 566 D devastated01 Member
devastated01 Member D Joined: Dec 2006 Posts: 566	Thanks for sharing that Kiwi... a simple and good analogy. Dev BS - 31 (me) WW - 29 M ~2 years, No kids DDay - 2nd Dec 2006 Exposed - 15th Jan 2007 NC started - 14th Jan 2007 NC broken 23rd Jan 2007 NC broken many times since Status: WS moved out 22 March 07 "to think"; A ongoing still; 2nd July 2007 - signed Divorce papers "I'm done!"

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