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#1859755 04/15/07 12:59 PM
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WW is leaving OM house and moving in with her dads...I know she not moving back with me but hey this is better than staying with OM. So is the fog slowly clearing up???

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Could be... but stay in Plan A with a vengence, regardless of her reasoning.


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WW is leaving OM house and moving in with her dads...I know she not moving back with me but hey this is better than staying with OM. So is the fog slowly clearing up???

oh dear! Did your exposure ruin the affair? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


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WW is leaving OM house and moving in with her dads...I know she not moving back with me but hey this is better than staying with OM. So is the fog slowly clearing up???

oh dear! Did your exposure ruin the affair? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I did not know that exposure would cause this...lol. The fantasy is over.

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Bravo! Now you can rebuild your marriage.

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What reasons does she give for this happening? I agree...it's a great reason to be CAUTIOUSLY optomistic. What measures are going into place to ensure NC? Have you talked with her about what her next steps are?

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""but stay in Plan A with a vengence, regardless of her reasoning.""

I totally agree with SD. You have to get her out of her Dad's place and back to Your place.


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Mel<----handing namese the NADS AWARD for ruining his wife's affair via EXPOSURE! WAY TO GO, DUDE!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


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my understanding is that she would HAVE to move because you said his commanding officer said this could not continue. still plan a but be CAUTIOUSLY optimistic. just because they can't live together does not mean the affair won't continue... they will just have to be sneakier about it now.

not trying to be a downer, i just know how sneaky waywards are.. i know, i lived with one for many many years.


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WW is leaving OM house and moving in with her dads...I know she not moving back with me but hey this is better than staying with OM. So is the fog slowly clearing up???

I don't mean to be a downer but no, the fog is not clearing and probably won't for a while (few weeks?).

She's leaving the OM house because OM was ordered not to see your W. Your WW is mad at you because her fantasy has been destroyed. She will need a while to idolize OM and villianize you.

Stay the course.

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Well found out yesterday she wants a divorce and went to go see what she needs to do so.

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Names...

As I've said...pick ONE thread and post in it.

Trying to keep up with multiple threads will prevent you from getting the advice and help you want.

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well, i am thinking a few things.
one is that she is really mad at you thus she is calling lawyer out of spite and anger OR
om was probably told by the military that he could date your wife once you two were divorced. to clean up house in other words (that is what mine was told. either go home or make the split legal) she may be making the split legal so she can go with om.

if you still want her back, you can still continue to plan a in my opinion.

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