Wife dropped bomb 8/11/06. Said she was depressed, I was causing it, we need to get D now counseling will not help. Said there wasn't anybody else, I BELIEVED HER, DUMB, DUMB, DUMB. I went to counseling alone, corrected my behavior. We started to get along, then 1st of year she reverted back to her old self. I finally got on her work email 1st of month and found out she and fellow worker that is getting D are very friendly and their dinner/lunch/drinking dates fit her mood with me. Started in June of 06. She broke if off with him for 2 months and that is when we got along. Started back up in Jan full speed. My C said tell her it is either him or us and give her 48 hrs to make up her mind. I plan on confronting her this weekend and I am talking to attorney tomorrow but I would like other's opinion on how to handle this. I want to give my marriage the best chance to survive this. I have been in house entire time.

Are you local? There are a few of us from MB in the middle of the big blue. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

You need to get a plan. Please read the concepts section and Surviving an Affair. That's for starters so you can see when she is babbling vs having a reason meaningful conversation.

Aloha,
L.