I am 21 years old my wife is 23 we dated for almost a year then got married. We have been married for almost 2 years now. She has always stayied in touch with her ex of 3 years. I never liked it and begged and threated and did everything I knew to do.

She would so ok I want talk to him any more then I would see on her phone where she still did. I would ask her about it and she would say he just needed some advice. We went to were she was from about two weeks ago and went to a bar to hangout, i had to take a friend home and told her to call me when she left.

3 hours later i finally got her on the phone and she said i m somewhere else you sould come I told her no i dont know where i am and dont know how to get there and told her to come get me , she said ok i m on my way. 4 hours later she sent a message that said theres a roadblock still tring to come. tried to call and call did not here from her till next morning.

For two weeks notthing was the same, I knew something had happened but did kow what to say. She came to me two nights ago and told me she slept with her ex. She cryied and did the whole nine yards. I was in shock did belive it and not sure if i still do.

I love her more than anything and i really belive she loves and cares for me. She is in sales and travels 4 out of 5 days a week starting about 3 months ago it is a very demanding job and she stays stresssedd out over it. I am in school and only make a small portion to what she does. This put alot of pressure on us too. This has been so hard on us and is probably what let to this happeing.

I cant tell my family becasue if thingswork out (if i choose that) i dont want them knowing for the rest of my life. I feel mad as ****** at times, then horrible, then scared, confused, then i feel like i can make it work and forgive and forget but i just dont know how, Then i feel like i just want to quit and move on. I cant get the images out of my head of them have sex. This has been the worst three days of my life.

I just dont know what to do, or if things could ever be the same again. I want them to but dont know or think that they can. I know i am a very nice and attractive guy .and think in time i could move on but i rally dont want to start all the way over. She is the one I wanted my children with and to grow old with.

She swears that it would never happen again and that she doesnt see how she could ever forgive herself. She said that she feels that she should be punished and that she doesnt deserve me and that i sould get someone who wouldnt hurt me like that. all she keep saying is how sorry she is and that she wishes that she could take my pain away.

I cant sleep at night because of the thoughts and images i have i cant eat becasue i will throw up. how many people go though this and then there lives go back to normal is it possible for me to forget this what do i do. Some one please help me im at the lowest point at me life. I feel alone lost tried to go to a friends house and couldnt even say for more than a minute why? Please help me and soon

So sorry tim, I am certainly not a pro here, but I am sure that they will be responding soon. It is totally normal to feel the way you do. Have you suspected any other infidelity or do you think that this was a one shot thing?

I belive that it was a one time thing. We have been happy then her job started and things kinda started down hill slowly. Her staying in contact with this guy ruined my confidence and just hurt. I begged her to stop and she would for a couple weeks. Know she says that the stress of her job and the lack of my and her confidence made us distance, and that when she went back to where she was from she just felt relaxed and worry free.

She said she never wanted it to happen that she was not even hanging out with him that he just showed up while everyone was leaving and he told her she could stay with him. she was very drunk i know thats no excuse there isn't one but still i cant forget it.

I can forgive without a doubt but the forgetting is hard. I tried to ask her how they did it and how long did it last and just details but she was not willing to talk about it.

Would know the details help because sometimes i see it as a porno then i see it as a real passionate love sence. So i dont know what to do. She gets mad if i ask or brings it up.

Hi Timmay...

So sorry that you are here...It is the best place for you under the circumstances...All of your feelings are very normal and understandable...

Here is a link to a letter that you can print out and let her read explaining why you need for her to answer all questions...Click~~~>Joseph's Letter

Have you asked her to write and send a No Contact Letter to the OM?

Mrs. W