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#1860995 04/17/07 10:50 PM
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I put my youngest son on a plane today and flew him of into life. I may know that it is a good thing for him but it is killing me inside. My husband is just ecstatic and unable to see how I feel. Please tell me how to handle this!!!


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CRY! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Oh Gosh, Melody. I have been. just don't know how to stop and go on! I have been a Mom most of my life! Now I just have this big empty house..
My DH is just making jokes like now we can run around nekkid. I can't relate to it at all.
I know that h helped me raise my boys and he will never feel for them what I do, but, to make light of it, and then get sorta angry when I cried seemed pretty heartless to me. He just said "Isn't this what what we have been waiting for?"
Well maybe what he has, but not me.


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Listen, you can call that fella EVERY DAY!! I DO!! I call him up to ask him "and whose boy is dis??" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> POOR KID! hahaa

Hey, it does get easier, I promise.

I know you have cried alot over the past 3 years, dear. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Thank you, for your caring, and I have cried alot over the last few years. Some times I wish I had more words of wisdom as you have for the people going through all this. I just don't usually know what to say.
I know that I Have recovered my marriage, survived the cancer and so far the death of a much beloved son. Maybe that is why it is so hard to let go of my baby.


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You are a survivor, and your boy is darn lucky to have you for a momma, Cherise. Do you get to see your grandkids? Aren't those Chris' children?


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Yes, they are Chris' kids. The son who graduated from MIT with honors and died soon after. She is two states away and hasn't answered my calls in 3 weeks.


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I think the cancer was easier for me. At least it was me And I had some control. I never had control over alot of of the most devestating things to me. After all I'm still here after 8 years.


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You know something ML, I have always, for so many years wanted to tell you, Pep, and Orchid how much you have supported and inspired me throughout the years. You are really strong women who have really been there. Even for a lot who were just lurking . Just wanted to let you know that is true.


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Thanks Cherise. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I hope the pain goes away fast over missing your boy. I know how you feel. Mine left a few years ago, and it does get better. Like I said, you can always call and torment the boy daily. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Take care, friend. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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