I'm feeling the urge to contact my wayward wife.
She has been wayward now for about 8 months and we have had very little contact in that time.
She has moved away to be with the OM and i tried as best i could to do a decent plan A. That period of time was torturous and hard to swallow.

A few months back she came to visit me and was very standoffish, not letting me sit next to her as if i was abusive or something. It seems as though she's created a new vision of me and of our marriage to suit her needs. Its scary.

Anyways, after the visit i decided to dissapear. I did it for myself mostly to ease the extreme pain of maintaining contact. We haven't spoken in about a month and a half but a mutual friend recently talked to the OM and apparently the affair continues even though she hasn't filed for divorce. (Doesn't this guy have any self respect?)

Lately i've been wanting to contact her just to end things once and for all. I'm feeling rather done with it. I think that i may have to do the divorcing as she seems to be dragging her feet. Perhaps i should contact the OM to ask him how it feels to date a married woman for 9 months.

Someone pleeeeease tell me what i should do here? Is staying dark a good idea? I haven't even sent a plan B letter, i simply dissapeared.

I'm not gonna lie... i still love her very much but i can't go on living like this indefinitely can i?

SEND A PLAN B LETTER. It's not Plan B if she isn't aware of the stipulations.

My advice, if you want your M, your W, is to send the PBL and remain dark. Disappearing sends the message that you are OUT. Are you OUT or are you IN? Your choice...

She's not dragging her feet. She's enjoying the cake eating.