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Over the last year I have been in an on and off again affair with a coworker.My wife and I have a big age difference of 26 years. She is 72 and I am 46. We have been married for 20 years and seperated for 7 months. i say too myself I would not get a divorce if it was not for our age difference. my wife has been through ****** as well as i. The divorce date is coming up soon and I go back and forth with doubt guilt and questions.
Any advice out there.
thanksTom [color:"black"] [/color]
Is divorce because of age difference a reason ?
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Can a relationship from an affair work out? (50%, 1 Votes)
Is a 26 year age difference a good reason to divorce? (50%, 1 Votes)
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what the heck?

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mot:

First, I'd rather not even address your questions until you end your affair. If you've been separated for 7 months, you're still married. And because you're having an affair with this other person, you can't be objective about whether it'll last long-term.

If you do go ahead and divorce, you should give yourself a year or 2 before getting involved in another relationship.

Ask me your question then.

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Did the age discrepancy change?

let's see .... 20 years ago the age discrepancy was ... ummmmm 26 years

~and~ after 20 years of marriage .... what is the age discrepancy ?

oh... yeah .... still 26 years

*doh*

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Oh, alright. I'll answer your 2nd 2uestion 2 years early:

No.

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hey...********you come to an infidelity forum to ask a question like that...
hmmm.... let me see, ********edit**************

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gee... was I harsh?

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so...you married her when you were 26 and she was 52.

Which means that she was exactly twice your age.

Why didn't age matter then?

Why does it matter now?

Seems to me that it matters when it is convenient for you.

Was she loaded? And I aint talking alcohol. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Lord...I have a feeling this is a troll...

We might need to bump that troll cookin thread.

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naughty naughty MEDC

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Um...

I have 2 ask this. My women's in2ition is kicking up again...

Is the OW by any chance your stepdaughter?

-ol' 2long

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perhaps ************edit************and he wanted a woman that he thought wouldn't be too demanding of him....
he most likely found out he couldn't keep up with her... so now he needs to find a way out...
********edit***************
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My women's in2ition is kicking up again...

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Is the OW by any chance your stepdaughter?


nah... my bet is on the 102 year old step mother!

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I am going to really, really try to ignore all the yuk, yuks that are going on and answer this person civily. I have a reason for so doing.

1. Age difference is a reason to NOT get married. But you did anyway.

2. No, affairs are a dead end at near certainty level.

Presumably you and your wife talked about your age difference before you got married and presumably you have or had a plan based on the probability that she was gonna get too old to be an effective partner to a younger person and would probably die way before you did.

If you didn't have a plan, er, I dunno what to say except it is never too late. Divorcing someone because their age is now inconvenient seems to me to be a bit of smoke screen. What you really want to know is in question two and the answer to that one is not only no, but not in your lifetime. Affairs are emotional train wrecks up a blind canyon with very few exceptions that take maturity and circumstances that are both likely to be strangers to your reality.

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I don't think the age discrepancy changed. I think i changed and wanted to have children.

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really

the yuks started with the wayward's
~fabulous~ poll
2 unanserable & nonsensical questions

[color:"red"]Have you ever noticed the LACK of moral questioning that goes on during an affair

WHERE ARE the missing poll questions concerning morals/values/ethics ??? [/color]

WHERE is THIS poll question...

[color:"blue"] ~~Is it morally correct to have an affair and divorce my much older wife after 20 years?~~

*YES
*NO
*ONLY IF THE SEX IS GOOD [/color]


*crickets chirping*

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I did not know this was an infidelity forum. I thought it was place you could ask questions when you were having trouble figuring out the right thing to do. I take your pretty angry and hurt still?

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~violins~ at the ready <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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Let's discuss ethical issues MOT

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bless you too Mr prostitute

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